5 9 Great Ways to Confidently Approach Anyone If you are not confident by nature the simple task of starting a conversation with someone new is enough to start the heart racing! Yes, you read it correctly Cold sweats, heart palpitations, shaking and stuttering are just some of the effects that the fainthearted can be faced with whilst starting a conversation. This can all be avoided by following these simple yet effective tips to help your confidence soar. 1. Shyness doesn't pay. Being timid and shying away amongst the crowd really doesn't payoff these days. While sitting amongst your friends and listening to their conversations, teach yourself to not only be a listener but to participate more.