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(4) STEPHEN CANTRELL CAVENDER (“Stephen Cavender” & “S.C. Cavender”) who was also born about 1797-1799 in Lunenburg County, Virginia, apparently was married at least 2 times, and may have been married for the third time.

In any event, the above Stephen Cavender first married Sally L. Short ("Sarah Short" & Sally Short") in Williamson County, Tennessee on February 18, 1819 by John Atkinson ("John Alkinson") who was a primitive Baptist minister in the Big Harpeth Primitive Baptist Church in Williamson County, with Elisha Walker ("Elisah Walker"?) being the bondsman. It is also to be noted that Elisha Walker was also the husband of Stephen Cavender's sister, Jincy Cavender. Sally Cavender ("Sarah Cavender") died on December 16, 1843 at the age of 42 and left a large family according to the Western Weekly Review dated January 5, 1844.^{279 & 355}

Stephen Cavender next married Mrs. Matilda Bynum (“Matilda Jane Bynum”? & “Matilda Byrum”?) about 1843-1844 in Maury County, Tennessee. Matilda Bynum (or “Matilda Bryum”) was born in North Carolina about 1801 and apparently had been previously married to William A. Bryum (“William A. Byrum” & “William Byrum”?) and had at least 4 children of her own at that time. (See the account of the below lawsuit.)

As noted above, at the first marriage of Stephen Cavender, the ceremony was conducted by John Alkinson ("John Atkinson"), one of the five ministers of the Big Harpeth Primitive Baptist Church which Eudaley James Cavender and Elizabeth Cavender were apparently members, and further by the fact that in 1824, and again in 1827, Stephen Cavender purchased land on the Big Harpeth River near the farm of Eudaley James Cavender. As Stephen Cavender was already married and not living in the household of his father when the 1820 Williamson County census was taken, he would not have been listed as a member of his father's household at that particular point in time.

On or about February 16, 1846, a deed was executed by Stephen Cavender to the children of Matilda Cavender (formerly “Matilda Byrum”) named: William A. Byrum (“William Byrum”), Elizabeth A. Lane (“Elizabeth Lane”, formerly Elizabeth Byrum), Mary P. Byrum (“Mary Byrum”) and Caroline B. Byrum and was recorded on February 5, 1846, which deeded to the said heirs of Matilda Cavender his 6 slaves Mariah?, Permelia, George, Bettities?, Roenia? and James, together with their increases, during his lifetime.

According to records in the Maury County, Tennessee Chancery Court, a lawsuit was filed therein sometime between 1852-1860 apparently by the 3 minor children and widow of William A. Bryum who had previously died on October 26, 1852. The 3 minor children of William A. Bryum were:

(i) William A. Bryum (“William Bryum”);

(ii) Thomas Bryum;

(iii) Matilda Bryum; and,

(iv) Mary Bryum, the widow of William A. Bryum.

Apparently, the suit concerned the previous gift by Stephen Cavender on January 13, 1846 of some named slaves to some unknown party or parties. The suit apparently also filed against:

(i) Mary Jane Bryum (“Mary Bryum”, “Mary Jane Byrum” & “Mary Byrum”) who had previously married Archibald Lytle Cavender (“Archibald L. Cavender”, “A.L. Cavender” & “Archibald Cavender”) of Lawrence County, Tennessee and who was the son of Stephen Cavender who had married apparently her mother, Matilda Bryum (“Matilda Byrum”) in 1843;

(ii) Caroline B. Smith (“Caroline Byrum Smith” & “Caroline Smith”) who was formerly Caroline Bryum (“Caroline Byrum”) who had married Stephen Smith on August 15, 1850. Her mother had married Stephen Cavender about 1843 and with whom Caroline Bryum (not “Caroline Smith”) was living in 1850 at the age of about 17 years; and,

(iii) Wilson D. Love (“Wilson Love”) and his wife Elizabeth A. Love (“Elizabeth Love”) who probably was Elizabeth Bryum (“Elizabeth Byrum) before her marriage to William Love.

Although not so stated, it is believed that the first mentioned minor children were actually the children of Caroline Bryum (“Caroline Byrum”) while she was married to William A. Bryum (“William A. Byrum”, “William Bryum” & “William Byrum”).

On November 2, 1847, Stephen Cavender either purchased from the heirs of Robert O. Smith (“Robert Smith”), or the State of Tennessee granted to him, a tract of land in Lewis County, Tennessee located on the waters of Catheys Creek and containing 200 acres. It is to be noted that Lewis County, Tennessee was formed from parts of the counties of Maury County, Tennessee, Hickman County, Tennessee, Wayne County, Tennessee, and Lawrence County, Tennessee in 1843. The particular section given to Lewis County, Tennessee by Maury County, Tennessee was returned to Maury County, Tennessee in 1852.

On March 20, 1849, the State of Tennessee granted to Stephen Cavender a tract of land in Lewis County, Tennessee containing 41 acres also on Catheys Creek.

In 1850, the Stephen Cavender family was then living in Lewis County, Tennessee, the same county in which his brother Joseph Wyatt Cavender ("Joseph Cavender" & “J.W. Cavender”) was then living, and his family at that particular point in time comprised: himself, age 52 and born in Virginia about 1798; his second wife, Matilda Cavender (“formerly “Matilda Byram”?, “Matilda Bynum”? & “Matilda Bryum”?), age 49 and born in North Carolina about 1801; and his children, all born in Tennessee, which were: Margaret Cavender age 22 and thus born about 1828; Sarah Cavender age 20 and thus born about 1830; Stephen Cavender (also "S.C. Cavender", “Stephen Cantral Cavender”? & “Stephen Cantrell Cavender”?) age 14 and thus born about 1836; Mary Cavender age 12 and thus born about 1838; Milly Cavender age 10 and thus born about 1840; and, also Caroline B. Bynum (“Caroline Byrum” & “Caroline Byram”?) age 17 born in North Carolina about 1733 and the daughter of his second wife, Matilda Bynum. They may have also had a son named Silas S. Cavender (“Silas Cavender” & “S.S. Cavender”) who was born about 1823-1824 in Tennessee, and who married Permeila R.O. Andrews (“Permelia Andrews”, “Permellia Andrews” & “Pamela Andrews”) on either April 10, 1848 or on April 13, 1848 in Maury County, Tennessee, and thus explains why he was not living in the household of his father when the 1850 census was taken.

In fact, his brother named John Calvin Cavender may have been living with them when the 1850 census was taken. It apparently was not all that uncommon for a family to ship their military age son to another family and try to establish a need for deferment from the military draft. So, maybe that was why John Calvin Cavender was then living with his married older brother.

In 1860, Stephen Cavender was still living in Maury County, Tennessee, and his family then comprised: himself who was listed as being 63 years of age and thus born in Virginia about 1797; his wife M.J. Cavender (“Matilda Cavender”, formerly “Matilda Bryum”) age 60 and thus born about 1800; and, their daughter Milley Cavender (“Milly Cavender”) then age 20 and thus born about 1840. He was one of the first to enlist in the Confederate services in the First Regiment of Calvary under the command of Colonel Bitfull.¹³²

Stephen Cavender’s twin brother, James B. Cavender (“James Cavender”, “J.B. Cavender” & “James Benjamin Cavender”?) and his family were then living in Rutherford County, Tennessee. So, it appears that Eudaley James Cavender’s twin son named Stephen Cavender, never left Maury County, Tennessee but that his son likewise named Stephen Cavender (“S.C. Cavender”, “Stephen Cantral Cavender” & “Stephen Cantrell Cavender”?) moved his family to Dallas County, Texas in 1886.

Stephen Cavender and Matilda Byrum Cavender had 9 children:

According to the 1850 census for Davidson County, Tennessee, Harrison Cavender was listed as being born in Virginia about 1822, and his wife Julia Cavender was listed as then being age 27 and born in Tennessee about 1823 and were living in in the same household with Patrick Cavender age 32 and thus born about 1818, together with the family of James Cavender (“James S. Cavender”) age 38 and thus born about 1812 and his wife Nancy Cavender (formerly “Nancy Underwood") age 35 and thus born about 1815 and their son Silas Cavender age 15 and thus born about 1835 and who may be the same Silas Cavender who married a Sarah (“Sarah Cavender”?) in Nashville, Davidson County, Tennessee on October 1, 1856.

In 1860, apparently the same Harrison Cavender and his family were living in Wilson County, Tennessee, which is adjacent to Davidson County, Tennessee. His family then comprised himself, age 28 and thus born about 1832? (probably he was actually age 38 and thus born about 1822). His wife at that time was Jane Cavender, age 25 and thus born about 1835, and their son was Andrew Cavender, age 2 and thus born about 1858 (If he was born about 1832 and was married in 1845, he would have been about 12 years old when he married, which is highly unlikely. Thus, again, he must have been born about 1822).

In the 1870 census for Wilson County, Tennessee, this particular Harrison Cavender was listed as then being age 48 and born in Virginia about 1822, his wife at that time was Louisa Cavender, age 31 and thus born about 1839, and their son Andrew Cavender was then age 12 and thus born about 1858.

(NOTE: Actually, the 1850 census states “CAVENDER, Harrison 28, Julia 27, Patrick 32, James 38, Nancy 35, Silas 15, James HARRISON 8, Va T, D-92-548"

It does not really state that the above James HARRISON (“Cavender”?) is the son of the head of the household listed as Harrison Cavender, or whether he is the son of the listed James Cavender, or whether is name is merely James Harrison. Further stated in the published census is the statement “Where a person of a different surname than the head of the household is included within that household, we have printed his surname in all capitals.”

In 1847, Harrison Cavender paid taxes in Williamson County, Tennessee on 1 “pole”, apparently on only himself.

Query: Is the above James HARRISON (“Cavender”) the son of the listed Harrison Cavender age 28, or is he the son of the listed James Cavender age 38, or is he merely a person named James Harrison?). Further complicating the mystery is the fact that the 1860 census for Wilson County, Tennessee, which is adjacent to Davidson County, Tennessee, the son of Harrison Cavender listed was named Andrew Cavender age 2 (i.e., NOT James Harrison Cavender!). However, as the said James Harrison (“Cavender”) was probably about 17-18 years of age in 1860 and may have previously moved out of the household of Harrison Cavender.

Also, in the 1870 census for Wilson County, Tennessee, the only son of Harrison Cavender that was then listed was Andrew Cavender age 12. James Harrison Cavender was not listed, however a James Harrison was listed as then living in the Harrison Cavender household. However, it is also quite possible that the census taker made a mistake and listed James Harrison Cavender as merely James Harrison. Harrison Cavender and Julia Cavender apparently had a son named:

Permelia Andrews was born in North Carolina.

According to the 1850 census, Silas Cavender was listed as being a blacksmith and his 16 year old younger brother John Calvin Cavender ( “John Cavender” & “J.C. Cavender”) born about 1834 may have also been living with him. According to one report, Silas S. Cavender ("Silas Cavender" & “S.S. Cavender”) was born about 1822 and joined Company "C" of Capt. Coopers 1 Regiment, Tennessee Mounted Infantry on October 20, 1846 at the age of 24 and fought in the Mexican War and was a Private in rank. He apparently was given a disability discharge on July 17, 1847.⁹⁹ According to another report, a Silas S. Cavender (S.S. Cavender”) was sworn into the U.S. Calvary on June 6, 1846 by W.G. Harding in Columbia. He enlisted with his horse, valued at $60 and equipment valued at $15 and was discharged on July 17, 1862.

On July 5, 1889, Silas S. Cavender (“Silas Cavender” & “S.S. Cavender”), executed an affidavit in the Circuit Court in Perry County, Illinois in support to a pension application No. 286265 filed by Mary Jane Cavender (Martha J. Cavender” & “M.J. Cavender”), the widow of Archibald Cavender, while living at Nashville, Washington County, Illinois. At that time, Silas Cavender stated he was then living at Three Mile Prairie in Washington County, Illinois and that he was then 66 years of age and thus born about 1823. He further stated that Archibald Cavender was his brother, that he was not strong as a boy, that he visited Archibald in the hospital at St. Louis, St. Louis County, Missouri, at the upper or Benton Barracks, that he first came home for a while and then later rejoined the service. He finally came home in bad health and was in bad health until the time he died with bleeding lungs and the consumption;

In 1850, the Archibald Cavinder (“Archibald Cavender”?) family was living in Lewis County, Tennessee and then consisted of himself age 24 and thus born about 1826, his wife Mary J. Cavinder ("Mary Cavinder", “Mary J. Cavender” & "Mary Cavender") age 22 and thus born about 1828, James H. Cavinder ("James Cavinder", “J.H. Cavender”? & "James Cavender"?) age 3 and born in Tennessee about 1847, and Melissa B. Cavender ("Melissa Cavinder", "Melissa Cavender", “M.B. Cavender” & “Malissa Cavender”?) age 1 and thus born about 1849. ^{137, 355 464 & 475}

Archibald Cavender moved from Tennessee to Nashville, Washington County, Illinois about 1851-1855, and was a blacksmith. On August 27, 1861, he joined Company D of the 48^th Illinois Infantry in Nashville, Washington County, Illinois for a term of 3 years. He later became a Sergeant and, at that time, he was 30 years of age, married, a blacksmith, 5' 8 ½" tall, light hair, blue eyes, and light complexion. He was “mustered” into service on October 15, 1861 in Camp Butler in Springfield?, Illinois. He was mustered out on November 10, 1864 in Vining Station, Georgia. On August 3, 1864, he was wounded slightly in the right hand while in Georgia.

On July 5, 1889, his brother Silas S. Cavender (“Silas Cavender” & “S.S. Cavender”), executed an affidavit in the Circuit Court in Perry County, Illinois in support to a pension application No. 286265 filed by Mary Jane Cavender (Martha J. Cavender” & “M.J. Cavender”), the widow of Archibald Cavender while living at Nashville, Washington County, Illinois. At that time, Silas Cavender stated he was then living at Three Mile Prairie in Washington County, Illinois and that he was then 66 years of age. He further stated that Archibald Cavender was his brother, that he was not strong as a boy, that he visited Archibald in the hospital at St. Louis, St. Louis County, Missouri, at the upper or Benton Barracks, that he first came home for a while and then later rejoined the service. He finally came home in bad health and was in bad health until the time he died with bleeding lungs and the consumption.