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Hello group!

My mother lives not far from Bedford Hills & she sent me the below Journal

News article. It contained extras not mentioned below so I just wanted to

include them here. Take it easy & God bless!


Just Love,

Barefoot Bill


Historic Place

Stepping Stones (picture) has been nominated for the National Register of

Historic Places because Bill and Lois Wilson (picture) are national figures

who co-founded significant social movements, not because the homestead

itself has important architecture. Yet, the nomination notes that the six

buildings on the 8-acre Stepping Stones homestead are intact and unified.

Designed in matching brown shingle siding, white casings and trim, and with

bright blue doors, the buildings retain a high level of historic integrity."


Among the highlights:

-A three-bedroom Dutch Colonial main house, built in 1920 as a summer

cottage.

-A large living room dominated by a stone fireplace and wall-length French

doors.

-The kitchen includes a porcelain-topped table where Wilson first discussed



with a newly sober friend the importance of trusting the God of one's own

understanding.

-A winding stair leading to a second-floor library preserved as Lois Wilson

left when she died in 1988.

-A collection of antiques, glassware, china, photographs, printed materials

and musical instruments of the Wilsons, including Bill Wilson's cello and

Lois

Wilson's piano, which visitors are encouraged to play.



-Bill Wilson's homemade backyard studio, named Wit's End, has a large

picture


window and the desk where he wrote four books about the AA experience.
Information

Alcoholics Anonymous: Call 212-647-1680, visit the Web site www.aa.org, look

up local listings under Alcoholics Anonymous in either the telephone

directory's white pages or Yellow Pages, or write Alcoholics Anonymous,

Grand

Central Station, P.O. Box 459, New York, N.Y. 10163.



Al-Anon Family Groups: Call Al-Anon Information Services at 914-946-1748,

visit


the Web site www.al-anon.alateen.org or write to the World Service Office

for


Al-Anon and Alateen, 1600 Corporate Landing Parkway, Virginia Beach, VA

23454-5617.

Stepping Stones: Call 914-232-4822, visit the Web site

www.steppingstones.org,

or write Stepping Stones Foundation, Box 452, Bedford Hills, N.Y. 10507.
Excerpts from Bill Wilson's letters

In the Spring 1941, after 23 years of marriage and a stretch of homelessness

that had lasted two years, Bill and Lois Wilson moved to their first and

only


true home in Bedford Hills. Originally they called the home "Bi-Lo's Break,"

because a friend had offered it to them for one-fourth of what it cost to

build. In the next four decades, as the AA and Al-Anon movements that the

Wilsons co-founded grew, they added land and buildings to their beloved

homestead, which they renamed Stepping Stones. Here are excerpts from three

letters Bill Wilson wrote about Stepping Stones. The letters are the

property

of the Stepping Stones Foundation.


From a Jan. 11, 1941 letter to his mother, Emily Wilson:

"It is a rather large house perched on a hill with a magnificent view

extending

for miles....This house was a dream of Mrs. Griffith, an artist and

well-known

actress. Her husband died of alcoholism so she feels quite partial to Lois

and

me.


"[Griffith] spent about $25,000 on it before getting tired of the project. I

think it can be bought for five or six thousand dollars and hope the

Alcoholic

Foundation will undertake to make the purchase on a small monthly payment

plan

over a period of years so that my earnings, if they materialize, can go into



improvements."
From an April 23, 1941 letter to AA co-founder Dr. Bob Smith in Ohio:

"This place is going to be a godsend for Lois and me....We can't get over

the

peace and quiet....



"From anyplace in this living room, you may look out over the treetops on a

swell view of rolling wooded country."


From an undated letter many years after the Wilsons moved to Stepping

Stones:


"The idea of Westchester real estate seemed out of the question....

"One day we visited a new A.A. member in Chappaqua....We remembered the

Bedford Hills house Mrs. Griffith had described....Lois and I drove over

with


[them] to see the house....We broke in at the back window and looked

around....

"At the very next meeting Mrs. Griffith approached Lois and me....She told

us

we might have the Bedford Hills place for $40 a month....It was a great



year,

1941."
-----Original Message-----

From: t [mailto:tcumming@airmail.net]

Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2004 7:42 PM

To: AAHistoryLovers@yahoogroups.com

Subject: [AAHistoryLovers] Stepping Into History -Westchester Journal

News Jan04
Stepping Into history
By ROB RYSER

THE JOURNAL NEWS of Westchester County NY

(Original publication: January 20, 2004)
BEDFORD HILLS -- It's hard to say how Alcoholics Anonymous would have ended

up

if



Bill and Lois Wilson had stayed homeless in 1941.
Bill Wilson's only work then was with alcoholics, and his 1939 book about

the AA


fellowship had not gotten the acclaim that the group's early members

expected.


Lois was finding scattered jobs as a decorator, but her real work was

keeping


the

couple off the street. The Wilsons slept at 51 places in two years.


Then 1941 brought what Bill Wilson called a godsend -- a chocolate brown

cottage


in

Bedford Hills with French doors that Lois adored and a fieldstone fireplace

that

reminded Bill of the East Dorset, Vt., home where he was born.


The house belonged to actress Helen Griffith, whose husband drank himself to

death


and whose alcoholic friend had been "revived" by an AA group in New Jersey.

She


knew

the Wilsons were destitute and offered them what Bill Wilson later called

"unbelievably easy terms."
The impact that the Wilsons had during the next four decades in the home

they


named

Stepping Stones is still being lived out today. Yet the contributions they

made

to

the understanding of alcoholism, the requirement for spiritual steps in



recovery

and


the need for families of alcoholics to have their own support are so

substantial

that

the National Park Service is preparing to crown the contemporary couple's



home

as

historic.


"The Wilsons' influence on 20th-century society is immeasurable," reads the

nominating statement, prepared by Margaret Gaertner, a preservation

specialist

with


the Dobbs Ferry architectural firm Stephen Tilly. "AA enabled, and continues

to

enable, millions of people around the world to achieve and sustain permanent



sobriety."
Although it may seem contradictory to call a 20th-century home historic in a

region


where historic properties often have 200-year pasts, the nominating form

says


the

Wilsons are legends who make it easy to forget that as recently as 1940,

alcoholism

was considered one of society's great unsolved public health enigmas.


Bill Wilson proclaimed that alcoholism was a disease three decades before

the


American Medical Association did in 1956. The 12-step solution that Wilson

and


AA

co-founder Dr. Bob Smith created to treat the physical, mental and spiritual

dimensions of alcoholism has become the standard for U.S. hospitals and

clinics.
Remarkably, AA was proved not in hospitals but in church basements, where

recovering

alcoholics shared their experiences, strength and hope to help others find

the

inspiration and power to stop drinking.


"Wilson realized that only another alcoholic could truly understand the

tangled


emotions evoked by his debilitating ordeal," reads the nominating form.
The Wilsons' cozy Dutch Colonial, with its barn-like gambrel roof and

cement-block

studio where Bill Wilson wrote, could be added to the state's Register of

Historic


Places in the spring. Stepping Stones could then join the National Register

of

Historic Places by summer.


Managed by a foundation that Lois Wilson formed in 1979, eight years after

Bill's


death at 71, Stepping Stones is a sacred site for Alcoholics Anonymous and

Al-Anon,


the 12-step program co-founded by Lois Wilson for the spouses and children

of

alcoholics.


Yet, Stepping Stones is not mobbed with pilgrims. A mere 1,000 visitors stop

by

each



year -- and up to half of those come for the annual picnic in June.
"We could increase our visitors by 100 percent, and we could handle it,"

said


Eileen

Giuliani, Stepping Stones' executive director.


Of course, she means that theoretically. For one thing, Stepping Stones is

surrounded

by single-family homes and wants to keep the peace. The other matter is that

not


all

recovering alcoholics and Al-Anons know that Stepping Stones is the Wilson

home,

much


less that it is in Bedford Hills.
The historical designation is sure to raise awareness among AA's 2.2 million

members


in 100,000 groups worldwide, and among the 29,000 Al-Anon groups with some

387,000


members in 115 countries, according to the organizations' estimates.
Giuliani said federal recognition will advance Stepping Stones' mission to

protect


the Wilson museum and archives, and promote the tenets of the AA experience.
Neighbors -- for once in Westchester -- seem ready to yield to the prospect

of

more



cars in the neighborhood.
"It's fine with me, and I've been here seven years," said Kim Cassone, a

mother


of

two who lives near Stepping Stones on Oak Street. "They were out there to

help

people


who had problems, and that is a good thing."
Once at Stepping Stones, visitors often feel an unmistakable presence: The

air


seems

sweet, as though bread has been baking, but no one has lived here since Lois

died at

age 97 in 1988.


The house is as Lois Wilson left it -- wall lengths of books stacked five

shelves


high, scores of grandmotherly collections, a gallery's worth of photos and

framed


proclamations by dignitaries ranging from Pope Paul VI to President

Eisenhower.


Susan Cheever, a Manhattan resident, will publish a biography, "My Name is

Bill:


Bill

Wilson -- His Life and the Creation of Alcoholics Anonymous," this month.

Cheever,

who grew up in Ossining, is the daughter of Pulitzer Prize-winning

short-story

writer


John Cheever, whose own battle with alcohol she documented in her 1984

memoir,


"Home

Before Dark."


"It is a very powerful place," Cheever said of Stepping Stones. "The ghosts

are


still

there."
It is a rite for visitors to sit at the 1920s porcelain-topped kitchen table

where

Bill Wilson had a spiritual breakthrough with his childhood friend Ebby



Thatcher, one

month before Bill got sober in December 1934. Ignoble as the little white

table

seems, it is venerated at Stepping Stones, sometimes drawing tears from



those in

recovery.


"I was overwhelmed," said Mark W., 51, of Topeka, Kan., a businessman who

has


been

sober 10 years and is obliged under AA's 12 Traditions to be anonymous when

speaking

to the media.


He has made three pilgrimages to Stepping Stones in the past three years. It

was


his

second visit with his wife when he dropped his composure and cried.


"I already knew how much I lost drinking," he said. "But sitting there made

me

realize how much I gained by staying sober."


Other relics nearly as special to visitors are the desk in Bill's backyard

studio and

the desk in the home's upstairs library, where in 1951 Lois Wilson organized

the


first Al-Anon groups.
It was on Bill Wilson's desk, which he brought to Stepping Stones from New

Jersey,


that he wrote the important opening 11 chapters to "Alcoholics Anonymous" --

the


575-page AA textbook that has sold 20 million copies.
"I don't want to call Stepping Stones a shrine, but it is pretty close,"

said


Mark.

W. "If it hadn't been for those people, I wouldn't be sane."


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++++Message 1637. . . . . . . . . . . . Dr. Bob Memorial Edition of the AA

Grapevine (1951), Part 1 of 3

From: Lash, William (Bill) . . . . . . . . . . . . 2/2/2004 12:17:00 PM
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Dr. Bob Memorial Edition

January 1951 AA Grapevine

(for those of you that don't know, this has now been discontinued by GSO)

Part 1 of 3


Therefore, if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that

thy brother hath ought against thee, leave there thy gift before the altar,

and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer

thy gift. - Matthew V, 23-24

For 120,000 of us...and for the thousands yet to come...we who have cause

for eternal gratitude dedicate this issue of the AA Grapevine to the memory

of the Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous our beloved DR. BOB.
A Tribute from Bill

Dr. Bob
SERENELY remarking to his attendant, "I think this is it," Dr. Bob passed

out of our sight and hearing November sixteenth at noonday. So ended the

consuming malady wherein he had so well shown us how high faith can rise

over grievous distress. As he had lived, so he had died, supremely aware

that in his Father's House are many Mansions.

In all those he knew, memory was at floodtide. But who could really say what

was thought and felt by the five thousand sick ones to whom he personally

ministered and freely gave a physician's care; who could possibly record the

reflections of his townsmen who had seen him sink almost within the grasp of

oblivion, then rise to anonymous world renown; who could express the

gratitude of those tens of thousands of AA families who had so well heard of

him but had never seen him face to face? What, too, were the emotions of

those nearest him as they thankfully pondered the mystery of his

regeneration fifteen years ago and all its vast consequence since? Not the

smallest fraction of this great benefaction could be comprehended. He could

only declare, "What indeed hath God wrought?"

Never would Dr. Bob have us think him saint or superman. Nor would he have

us praise him or grieve his passing. He can almost be heard, saying, "Seems

to me you folks are making heavy going. I'm not to be taken so seriously as

all that. I was only a first link in that chain of Providential circumstance

which is called AA. By Grace and great fortune my link did not break; though

my faults and failures might often have brought on that unhappy result. I

was just another alcoholic trying to get along - under the Grace of God.

Forget me, but go you and do likewise. Securely add your own link to our

chain. With God's help, forge that chain well and truly." In this manner

would Dr. Bob estimate himself and counsel us.

It was a Saturday in May, 1935. An ill-starred business venture had brought

me to Akron where it immediately collapsed leaving me in a precarious state

of sobriety. That afternoon I paced the lobby of Akron's Mayflower Hotel. As

I peered at the gathering crowd in the bar, I became desperately frightened

of a slip. It was the first severe temptation since my New York friend had

laid before me what were to become the basic principles of AA, in November

1934. For the next six months I had felt utterly secure in my sobriety. But

now there was no security; I felt alone, helpless. In the months before I

had worked hard with other alcoholics. Or, rather, I had preached at them in

a somewhat cocksure fashion. In my false assurance I felt I couldn't fall.

But this time it was different. Something had to be done at once.

Glancing at a Church Directory at the far end of the lobby, I selected the

name of a clergyman at random. Over the phone I told him of my need to work

with another alcoholic. Though I'd had no previous success with any of them

I suddenly realized how such work had kept me free from desire. The

clergyman gave me a list of ten names. Some of these people, he was sure,

would refer me a case in need of help. Almost running to my room, I seized

the phone. But my enthusiasm soon ebbed. Not a person in the first nine

called could, or would, suggest anything to meet my urgency.

One uncalled name still stood at the end of my list - Henrietta S. Somehow I

couldn't muster courage to lift the phone. But after one more look into the

bar downstairs something said to me, "You'd better." To my astonishment a

warm Southern voice floated in over the wire. Declaring herself no

alcoholic, Henrietta nonetheless insisted that she understood. Would I come

to her home at once?

Because she had been enabled to face and transcend other calamities, she

certainly did understand mine. She was to become a vital link to those

fantastic events which were presently to gather around the birth and

development of our AA society. Of all names the obliging Rector had given

me, she was the only one who cared enough. I would here like to record our

timeless gratitude.

Straightway she pictured the plight of Dr. Bob and Anne. Suiting action to

her word, she called their house. As Anne answered, Henrietta described me

as a sobered alcoholic from New York who, she felt sure, could help Bob. The

good doctor had seemingly exhausted all medical and spiritual remedies for

his condition. Then Anne replied, "What you say, Henrietta, is terribly

interesting. But I am afraid we can't do anything now. Being

Mother's Day, my dear boy has just brought in a fine potted plant. The pot

is on the table but, alas, Bob is on the floor. Could we try to make it

tomorrow?" Henrietta instantly issued a dinner invitation for the following

day.


At five o'clock next afternoon, Anne and Dr. Bob stood at Henrietta's door.

She discreetly wisked Bob and me off to the library. His words were,

"Mightly glad to meet you Bill. But it happens I can't stay long; five or

ten minutes at the outside." I laughed and observed, "Guess you're pretty

thirsty, aren't you?" His rejoinder was, "Well, maybe you do understand this

drinking business after all." So began a talk which lasted hours.

How different my attitude was this time. My fright of getting drunk had

evoked a much more becoming humility. After telling Dr. Bob my story, I

explained how truly I needed him. Would he allow me to help him, I might

remain sober myself. The seed that was to flower as AA began to grow toward

the light. But as dear Anne well guessed, that first tendril was a fragile

thing. Practical steps had better be taken. She bade me come and live at

their menage for awhile. There I might keep an eye on Dr. Bob. And he might

on me. This was the very thing. Perhaps we could do together what we

couldn't do separately. Besides I might revive my sagging business venture.

For the next three months I lived with these two wonderful people. I shall

always believe they gave me more than I ever brought them. Each morning

there was devotion. After the long silence Anne would read out of the Good

Book. James was our favorite. Reading him from her chair in the corner, she

would softly conclude "Faith without works is dead."

But Bob's travail with alcohol was not quite over. That Atlantic City

Medical Convention had to be attended. He hadn't missed one in twenty years.

Anxiously waiting, Anne and I heard nothing for five days. Finally his

office nurse and her husband found him early one morning at the Akron

railroad station in some confusion and disarray - which puts it mildly. A

horrible dilemma developed. Dr. Bob had to perform a critical surgical

operation just three days hence. Nor could an associate substitute for him.

He simply had to do it. But how? Could we ever get him ready in time?

He and I were placed in twin beds. A typical tapering down process was

inaugurated. Not much sleep for anybody, but he cooperated. At four o'clock

on the morning of the operation he turned, looked at me and said, "I am

going through with this." I inquired, "You mean you are going through with

the operation?" He replied, "I have placed both operation and myself in

God's hands. I'm going to do what it takes to get sober and stay that way."

Not another word did he say. At nine o'clock he shook miserably as we helped

him into his clothes. We were panic stricken. Could he ever do it? Were he

too tight or too shaky, it would make little difference, his misguided

scalpel might take the life of his patient. We gambled. I gave him one

bottle of beer. That was the last drink he ever took. It was June 10, 1935.

The patient lived.

Our first prospect appeared, a neighboring parson sent him over. Because the

newcomer faced eviction, Anne took in his whole family, wife and two

children. The new one was a puzzler. When drinking, he'd go clean out of his

mind. One afternoon Anne sat at her kitchen table, calmly regarding him as

he fingered a carving knife. Under her steady gaze, his hand dropped. But he

did not sober then. His wife despairingly betook herself to her own parents

and he disappeared.

But he did reappear fifteen years later for Dr. Bob's last rites. There we

saw him, soundly and happily sober in AA. Back in 1935 we weren't so

accustomed to miracles as we are today, we had given him up.

Then came a lull on the 12th Step front. In this time Anne and Henrietta

infused much needed spirituality into Bob and me. Lois came to Akron on

vacation from her grind at a New York department store, so raised our morale

immensely. We began to attend Oxford Group meetings at the Akron home of T.

Henry W. The devotion of this good man and his wife is a bright page in


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