Hello group!
My mother lives not far from Bedford Hills & she sent me the below Journal
News article. It contained extras not mentioned below so I just wanted to
include them here. Take it easy & God bless!
Just Love,
Barefoot Bill
Historic Place
Stepping Stones (picture) has been nominated for the National Register of
Historic Places because Bill and Lois Wilson (picture) are national figures
who co-founded significant social movements, not because the homestead
itself has important architecture. Yet, the nomination notes that the six
buildings on the 8-acre Stepping Stones homestead are intact and unified.
Designed in matching brown shingle siding, white casings and trim, and with
bright blue doors, the buildings retain a high level of historic integrity."
Among the highlights:
-A three-bedroom Dutch Colonial main house, built in 1920 as a summer
cottage.
-A large living room dominated by a stone fireplace and wall-length French
doors.
-The kitchen includes a porcelain-topped table where Wilson first discussed
with a newly sober friend the importance of trusting the God of one's own
understanding.
-A winding stair leading to a second-floor library preserved as Lois Wilson
left when she died in 1988.
-A collection of antiques, glassware, china, photographs, printed materials
and musical instruments of the Wilsons, including Bill Wilson's cello and
Lois
Wilson's piano, which visitors are encouraged to play.
-Bill Wilson's homemade backyard studio, named Wit's End, has a large
picture
window and the desk where he wrote four books about the AA experience.
Information
Alcoholics Anonymous: Call 212-647-1680, visit the Web site www.aa.org, look
up local listings under Alcoholics Anonymous in either the telephone
directory's white pages or Yellow Pages, or write Alcoholics Anonymous,
Grand
Central Station, P.O. Box 459, New York, N.Y. 10163.
Al-Anon Family Groups: Call Al-Anon Information Services at 914-946-1748,
visit
the Web site www.al-anon.alateen.org or write to the World Service Office
for
Al-Anon and Alateen, 1600 Corporate Landing Parkway, Virginia Beach, VA
23454-5617.
Stepping Stones: Call 914-232-4822, visit the Web site
www.steppingstones.org,
or write Stepping Stones Foundation, Box 452, Bedford Hills, N.Y. 10507.
Excerpts from Bill Wilson's letters
In the Spring 1941, after 23 years of marriage and a stretch of homelessness
that had lasted two years, Bill and Lois Wilson moved to their first and
only
true home in Bedford Hills. Originally they called the home "Bi-Lo's Break,"
because a friend had offered it to them for one-fourth of what it cost to
build. In the next four decades, as the AA and Al-Anon movements that the
Wilsons co-founded grew, they added land and buildings to their beloved
homestead, which they renamed Stepping Stones. Here are excerpts from three
letters Bill Wilson wrote about Stepping Stones. The letters are the
property
of the Stepping Stones Foundation.
From a Jan. 11, 1941 letter to his mother, Emily Wilson:
"It is a rather large house perched on a hill with a magnificent view
extending
for miles....This house was a dream of Mrs. Griffith, an artist and
well-known
actress. Her husband died of alcoholism so she feels quite partial to Lois
and
me.
"[Griffith] spent about $25,000 on it before getting tired of the project. I
think it can be bought for five or six thousand dollars and hope the
Alcoholic
Foundation will undertake to make the purchase on a small monthly payment
plan
over a period of years so that my earnings, if they materialize, can go into
improvements."
From an April 23, 1941 letter to AA co-founder Dr. Bob Smith in Ohio:
"This place is going to be a godsend for Lois and me....We can't get over
the
peace and quiet....
"From anyplace in this living room, you may look out over the treetops on a
swell view of rolling wooded country."
From an undated letter many years after the Wilsons moved to Stepping
Stones:
"The idea of Westchester real estate seemed out of the question....
"One day we visited a new A.A. member in Chappaqua....We remembered the
Bedford Hills house Mrs. Griffith had described....Lois and I drove over
with
[them] to see the house....We broke in at the back window and looked
around....
"At the very next meeting Mrs. Griffith approached Lois and me....She told
us
we might have the Bedford Hills place for $40 a month....It was a great
year,
1941."
-----Original Message-----
From: t [mailto:tcumming@airmail.net]
Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2004 7:42 PM
To: AAHistoryLovers@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [AAHistoryLovers] Stepping Into History -Westchester Journal
News Jan04
Stepping Into history
By ROB RYSER
THE JOURNAL NEWS of Westchester County NY
(Original publication: January 20, 2004)
BEDFORD HILLS -- It's hard to say how Alcoholics Anonymous would have ended
up
if
Bill and Lois Wilson had stayed homeless in 1941.
Bill Wilson's only work then was with alcoholics, and his 1939 book about
the AA
fellowship had not gotten the acclaim that the group's early members
expected.
Lois was finding scattered jobs as a decorator, but her real work was
keeping
the
couple off the street. The Wilsons slept at 51 places in two years.
Then 1941 brought what Bill Wilson called a godsend -- a chocolate brown
cottage
in
Bedford Hills with French doors that Lois adored and a fieldstone fireplace
that
reminded Bill of the East Dorset, Vt., home where he was born.
The house belonged to actress Helen Griffith, whose husband drank himself to
death
and whose alcoholic friend had been "revived" by an AA group in New Jersey.
She
knew
the Wilsons were destitute and offered them what Bill Wilson later called
"unbelievably easy terms."
The impact that the Wilsons had during the next four decades in the home
they
named
Stepping Stones is still being lived out today. Yet the contributions they
made
to
the understanding of alcoholism, the requirement for spiritual steps in
recovery
and
the need for families of alcoholics to have their own support are so
substantial
that
the National Park Service is preparing to crown the contemporary couple's
home
as
historic.
"The Wilsons' influence on 20th-century society is immeasurable," reads the
nominating statement, prepared by Margaret Gaertner, a preservation
specialist
with
the Dobbs Ferry architectural firm Stephen Tilly. "AA enabled, and continues
to
enable, millions of people around the world to achieve and sustain permanent
sobriety."
Although it may seem contradictory to call a 20th-century home historic in a
region
where historic properties often have 200-year pasts, the nominating form
says
the
Wilsons are legends who make it easy to forget that as recently as 1940,
alcoholism
was considered one of society's great unsolved public health enigmas.
Bill Wilson proclaimed that alcoholism was a disease three decades before
the
American Medical Association did in 1956. The 12-step solution that Wilson
and
AA
co-founder Dr. Bob Smith created to treat the physical, mental and spiritual
dimensions of alcoholism has become the standard for U.S. hospitals and
clinics.
Remarkably, AA was proved not in hospitals but in church basements, where
recovering
alcoholics shared their experiences, strength and hope to help others find
the
inspiration and power to stop drinking.
"Wilson realized that only another alcoholic could truly understand the
tangled
emotions evoked by his debilitating ordeal," reads the nominating form.
The Wilsons' cozy Dutch Colonial, with its barn-like gambrel roof and
cement-block
studio where Bill Wilson wrote, could be added to the state's Register of
Historic
Places in the spring. Stepping Stones could then join the National Register
of
Historic Places by summer.
Managed by a foundation that Lois Wilson formed in 1979, eight years after
Bill's
death at 71, Stepping Stones is a sacred site for Alcoholics Anonymous and
Al-Anon,
the 12-step program co-founded by Lois Wilson for the spouses and children
of
alcoholics.
Yet, Stepping Stones is not mobbed with pilgrims. A mere 1,000 visitors stop
by
each
year -- and up to half of those come for the annual picnic in June.
"We could increase our visitors by 100 percent, and we could handle it,"
said
Eileen
Giuliani, Stepping Stones' executive director.
Of course, she means that theoretically. For one thing, Stepping Stones is
surrounded
by single-family homes and wants to keep the peace. The other matter is that
not
all
recovering alcoholics and Al-Anons know that Stepping Stones is the Wilson
home,
much
less that it is in Bedford Hills.
The historical designation is sure to raise awareness among AA's 2.2 million
members
in 100,000 groups worldwide, and among the 29,000 Al-Anon groups with some
387,000
members in 115 countries, according to the organizations' estimates.
Giuliani said federal recognition will advance Stepping Stones' mission to
protect
the Wilson museum and archives, and promote the tenets of the AA experience.
Neighbors -- for once in Westchester -- seem ready to yield to the prospect
of
more
cars in the neighborhood.
"It's fine with me, and I've been here seven years," said Kim Cassone, a
mother
of
two who lives near Stepping Stones on Oak Street. "They were out there to
help
people
who had problems, and that is a good thing."
Once at Stepping Stones, visitors often feel an unmistakable presence: The
air
seems
sweet, as though bread has been baking, but no one has lived here since Lois
died at
age 97 in 1988.
The house is as Lois Wilson left it -- wall lengths of books stacked five
shelves
high, scores of grandmotherly collections, a gallery's worth of photos and
framed
proclamations by dignitaries ranging from Pope Paul VI to President
Eisenhower.
Susan Cheever, a Manhattan resident, will publish a biography, "My Name is
Bill:
Bill
Wilson -- His Life and the Creation of Alcoholics Anonymous," this month.
Cheever,
who grew up in Ossining, is the daughter of Pulitzer Prize-winning
short-story
writer
John Cheever, whose own battle with alcohol she documented in her 1984
memoir,
"Home
Before Dark."
"It is a very powerful place," Cheever said of Stepping Stones. "The ghosts
are
still
there."
It is a rite for visitors to sit at the 1920s porcelain-topped kitchen table
where
Bill Wilson had a spiritual breakthrough with his childhood friend Ebby
Thatcher, one
month before Bill got sober in December 1934. Ignoble as the little white
table
seems, it is venerated at Stepping Stones, sometimes drawing tears from
those in
recovery.
"I was overwhelmed," said Mark W., 51, of Topeka, Kan., a businessman who
has
been
sober 10 years and is obliged under AA's 12 Traditions to be anonymous when
speaking
to the media.
He has made three pilgrimages to Stepping Stones in the past three years. It
was
his
second visit with his wife when he dropped his composure and cried.
"I already knew how much I lost drinking," he said. "But sitting there made
me
realize how much I gained by staying sober."
Other relics nearly as special to visitors are the desk in Bill's backyard
studio and
the desk in the home's upstairs library, where in 1951 Lois Wilson organized
the
first Al-Anon groups.
It was on Bill Wilson's desk, which he brought to Stepping Stones from New
Jersey,
that he wrote the important opening 11 chapters to "Alcoholics Anonymous" --
the
575-page AA textbook that has sold 20 million copies.
"I don't want to call Stepping Stones a shrine, but it is pretty close,"
said
Mark.
W. "If it hadn't been for those people, I wouldn't be sane."
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++++Message 1637. . . . . . . . . . . . Dr. Bob Memorial Edition of the AA
Grapevine (1951), Part 1 of 3
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Dr. Bob Memorial Edition
January 1951 AA Grapevine
(for those of you that don't know, this has now been discontinued by GSO)
Part 1 of 3
Therefore, if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that
thy brother hath ought against thee, leave there thy gift before the altar,
and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer
thy gift. - Matthew V, 23-24
For 120,000 of us...and for the thousands yet to come...we who have cause
for eternal gratitude dedicate this issue of the AA Grapevine to the memory
of the Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous our beloved DR. BOB.
A Tribute from Bill
Dr. Bob
SERENELY remarking to his attendant, "I think this is it," Dr. Bob passed
out of our sight and hearing November sixteenth at noonday. So ended the
consuming malady wherein he had so well shown us how high faith can rise
over grievous distress. As he had lived, so he had died, supremely aware
that in his Father's House are many Mansions.
In all those he knew, memory was at floodtide. But who could really say what
was thought and felt by the five thousand sick ones to whom he personally
ministered and freely gave a physician's care; who could possibly record the
reflections of his townsmen who had seen him sink almost within the grasp of
oblivion, then rise to anonymous world renown; who could express the
gratitude of those tens of thousands of AA families who had so well heard of
him but had never seen him face to face? What, too, were the emotions of
those nearest him as they thankfully pondered the mystery of his
regeneration fifteen years ago and all its vast consequence since? Not the
smallest fraction of this great benefaction could be comprehended. He could
only declare, "What indeed hath God wrought?"
Never would Dr. Bob have us think him saint or superman. Nor would he have
us praise him or grieve his passing. He can almost be heard, saying, "Seems
to me you folks are making heavy going. I'm not to be taken so seriously as
all that. I was only a first link in that chain of Providential circumstance
which is called AA. By Grace and great fortune my link did not break; though
my faults and failures might often have brought on that unhappy result. I
was just another alcoholic trying to get along - under the Grace of God.
Forget me, but go you and do likewise. Securely add your own link to our
chain. With God's help, forge that chain well and truly." In this manner
would Dr. Bob estimate himself and counsel us.
It was a Saturday in May, 1935. An ill-starred business venture had brought
me to Akron where it immediately collapsed leaving me in a precarious state
of sobriety. That afternoon I paced the lobby of Akron's Mayflower Hotel. As
I peered at the gathering crowd in the bar, I became desperately frightened
of a slip. It was the first severe temptation since my New York friend had
laid before me what were to become the basic principles of AA, in November
1934. For the next six months I had felt utterly secure in my sobriety. But
now there was no security; I felt alone, helpless. In the months before I
had worked hard with other alcoholics. Or, rather, I had preached at them in
a somewhat cocksure fashion. In my false assurance I felt I couldn't fall.
But this time it was different. Something had to be done at once.
Glancing at a Church Directory at the far end of the lobby, I selected the
name of a clergyman at random. Over the phone I told him of my need to work
with another alcoholic. Though I'd had no previous success with any of them
I suddenly realized how such work had kept me free from desire. The
clergyman gave me a list of ten names. Some of these people, he was sure,
would refer me a case in need of help. Almost running to my room, I seized
the phone. But my enthusiasm soon ebbed. Not a person in the first nine
called could, or would, suggest anything to meet my urgency.
One uncalled name still stood at the end of my list - Henrietta S. Somehow I
couldn't muster courage to lift the phone. But after one more look into the
bar downstairs something said to me, "You'd better." To my astonishment a
warm Southern voice floated in over the wire. Declaring herself no
alcoholic, Henrietta nonetheless insisted that she understood. Would I come
to her home at once?
Because she had been enabled to face and transcend other calamities, she
certainly did understand mine. She was to become a vital link to those
fantastic events which were presently to gather around the birth and
development of our AA society. Of all names the obliging Rector had given
me, she was the only one who cared enough. I would here like to record our
timeless gratitude.
Straightway she pictured the plight of Dr. Bob and Anne. Suiting action to
her word, she called their house. As Anne answered, Henrietta described me
as a sobered alcoholic from New York who, she felt sure, could help Bob. The
good doctor had seemingly exhausted all medical and spiritual remedies for
his condition. Then Anne replied, "What you say, Henrietta, is terribly
interesting. But I am afraid we can't do anything now. Being
Mother's Day, my dear boy has just brought in a fine potted plant. The pot
is on the table but, alas, Bob is on the floor. Could we try to make it
tomorrow?" Henrietta instantly issued a dinner invitation for the following
day.
At five o'clock next afternoon, Anne and Dr. Bob stood at Henrietta's door.
She discreetly wisked Bob and me off to the library. His words were,
"Mightly glad to meet you Bill. But it happens I can't stay long; five or
ten minutes at the outside." I laughed and observed, "Guess you're pretty
thirsty, aren't you?" His rejoinder was, "Well, maybe you do understand this
drinking business after all." So began a talk which lasted hours.
How different my attitude was this time. My fright of getting drunk had
evoked a much more becoming humility. After telling Dr. Bob my story, I
explained how truly I needed him. Would he allow me to help him, I might
remain sober myself. The seed that was to flower as AA began to grow toward
the light. But as dear Anne well guessed, that first tendril was a fragile
thing. Practical steps had better be taken. She bade me come and live at
their menage for awhile. There I might keep an eye on Dr. Bob. And he might
on me. This was the very thing. Perhaps we could do together what we
couldn't do separately. Besides I might revive my sagging business venture.
For the next three months I lived with these two wonderful people. I shall
always believe they gave me more than I ever brought them. Each morning
there was devotion. After the long silence Anne would read out of the Good
Book. James was our favorite. Reading him from her chair in the corner, she
would softly conclude "Faith without works is dead."
But Bob's travail with alcohol was not quite over. That Atlantic City
Medical Convention had to be attended. He hadn't missed one in twenty years.
Anxiously waiting, Anne and I heard nothing for five days. Finally his
office nurse and her husband found him early one morning at the Akron
railroad station in some confusion and disarray - which puts it mildly. A
horrible dilemma developed. Dr. Bob had to perform a critical surgical
operation just three days hence. Nor could an associate substitute for him.
He simply had to do it. But how? Could we ever get him ready in time?
He and I were placed in twin beds. A typical tapering down process was
inaugurated. Not much sleep for anybody, but he cooperated. At four o'clock
on the morning of the operation he turned, looked at me and said, "I am
going through with this." I inquired, "You mean you are going through with
the operation?" He replied, "I have placed both operation and myself in
God's hands. I'm going to do what it takes to get sober and stay that way."
Not another word did he say. At nine o'clock he shook miserably as we helped
him into his clothes. We were panic stricken. Could he ever do it? Were he
too tight or too shaky, it would make little difference, his misguided
scalpel might take the life of his patient. We gambled. I gave him one
bottle of beer. That was the last drink he ever took. It was June 10, 1935.
The patient lived.
Our first prospect appeared, a neighboring parson sent him over. Because the
newcomer faced eviction, Anne took in his whole family, wife and two
children. The new one was a puzzler. When drinking, he'd go clean out of his
mind. One afternoon Anne sat at her kitchen table, calmly regarding him as
he fingered a carving knife. Under her steady gaze, his hand dropped. But he
did not sober then. His wife despairingly betook herself to her own parents
and he disappeared.
But he did reappear fifteen years later for Dr. Bob's last rites. There we
saw him, soundly and happily sober in AA. Back in 1935 we weren't so
accustomed to miracles as we are today, we had given him up.
Then came a lull on the 12th Step front. In this time Anne and Henrietta
infused much needed spirituality into Bob and me. Lois came to Akron on
vacation from her grind at a New York department store, so raised our morale
immensely. We began to attend Oxford Group meetings at the Akron home of T.
Henry W. The devotion of this good man and his wife is a bright page in
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