TEST IV HOW TO “SURVIVE” IN THE UNITED KINGDOM.
The guiding principle must always be St Ambrose’s dictum, ‘when in Rome, do as the Romans do’, i.e. follow the lead of your hosts.
Most Britons are reserved by nature and often find it difficult to indulge in small talk with a complete stranger. Introductions can be tricky. Ideally the British prefer third-party introductions but, in certain situations like a drinks party, it may not always be possible and, you may just introduce yourself. Firm handshakes are the norm as part of a formal introduction but may not be expected at subsequent meetings or on social occasions; a gentleman should always wait for a woman to proffer her hand before squeezing it gently. The continental habit of exchanging kisses has gained currency especially amongst the young and the affected but is not recommended for visitors - even the natives are unsure of the correct procedure. ‘How do you do?’ is a greeting not a question. It is used when people are introduced for the first time only and the correct response is to repeat ‘How do you do?’ Such usage is not to be confused with 'How are you?' etc. which is a more or less sincere enquiry as to your well-being.
Britons, and the English in particular, are undemonstrative. Gestures such as backslapping and hugging are discouraged and a wide distance should be maintained between participants in a conversation, because Britons like their own personal space and will shy away from those they find invasive. Some old-fashioned interlocutors may not listen to you if you have your hands in your pockets. Maintaining eye contact may be necessary when you are trying to emphasise important points but you must avoid any temptation to ‘eye-ball’. Talking loudly is unacceptable and shouting is beyond the pale. If the British use few words, it is because they prefer to mean those they do use. For the most part, the British speak in low, moderate, measured tones without raising the voice or gesticulating wildly for emphasis.
Humors is a vital feature of all aspects of British life. In a society that finds it difficult to express personal feelings, humors often acts as a defence mechanism and it is never out of place in all circumstances. You need not strive to be interminably witty yourself, but you should not be surprised by what you may consider coarse or inappropriate levity.
British cuisine is not what it was. British cooking has become distinctly international in flavors and there are relatively few traditional dishes left. There is also a good change: this erstwhile gastronomic desert has been transformed in the past twenty years and some of the best restaurants on the planet can be found in the UK. Unfortunately the best are also the most expensive and they are concentrated in London and the Home Counties or, at least, in the major cities. It is possible to eat well in the boondocks but it may require some research to find a suitably decent restaurant.
Interminable books have been written on the subject of dining etiquette in the UK. Most of the rules are archaic. Good manners are largely universal (or at least prevail throughout any given culture); they do not require instruction manuals. The only sensible rule is to behave in such a way as to cause neither embarrassment nor annoyance (at the risk of seeming hypocritically prescriptive, this might include making an effort to eat and drink at the same pace as the rest of the group, not speaking with one’s mouth full, not stretching across the table, not waving one's cutlery about and not licking one’s knife). If you are a guest, follow the host’s instructions; if you are the host, whatever you say goes. Act with confidence and, however bizarre your behaviors, the worst that can happen is that your British companions will regard you as an eccentric foreigner.
TASKS
1. Find the Russian equivalent.
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to indulge in A. расценивать
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to prefer B. выражать
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to introduce C. предлагать
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to expect D. приобретать
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to proffer E. кричать
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to squeeze F. следовать
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to exchange G. избегать
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to gain H. пристально смотреть
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to repeat I. рассматривать, обсуждать
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to confuse J. повторять
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to maintain K. сжимать
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to shy away L. делать акцент
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to emphasize M. иметь ввиду
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to avoid N. предпочитать
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to ‘eye-ball’ O. требовать
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to shout P. лизать
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to mean Q. поддерживать
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to raise R. путать
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to express S. служить причиной
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to strive T. позволять себе
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to consider U. обмениваться
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to transform V. вести себя
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to require W. сторониться
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to behave X. видоизменять
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to cause Y. представлять кого-либо
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to include Z. включать в себя
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to stretch AA. ожидать что-либо
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to lick BB. повышать
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to follow CC. потягиваться
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to regard DD. прилагать усилия
2. Have a look at the adverbs in bolt. Find them in the UNIT and guess their meaning. Read the quotations and translate them.
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“Govern a family as you would cook a small fish – very gently.” Chinese Proverb
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“Children need love, especially when they don't deserve it.”
Harold Hulbert
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“I praise loudly, I blame softly.” Catherine II of Russia
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“Even an attorney of moderate talent can postpone doomsday year after year, for the system of appeals that pervades American jurisprudence amounts to a legalistic wheel of fortune, a game of chance, somewhat fixed in the favor of the criminal, that the participants play interminably.” Truman Capote
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“Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too; this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what it loves.” Blaise Pascal
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“I believe that all of us ought to retire relatively young.” Fidel Castro
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“If you would like to marry suitably, marry your equal.” Ovid
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“Literature always anticipates life. It does not copy it, but moulds it to its purpose. The nineteenth century, as we know it, is largely an invention of Balzac.” Oscar Wilde
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“Unless man is committed to the belief that all mankind are his brothers, then he labors in vain and hypocritically in the vineyards of equality.” Adam Clayton Powell Jr.
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“No man can be ideally successful until he has found his place. Like a locomotive he is strong on the track, but weak anywhere else.” Orison Swett Marden
3. Match the word with its definition.
I. Who are these people?
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stranger A. an adult female person
2. host B. someone you spend a lot of time with, especially a friend
3. guest C. a man who is always polite, has good manners, and treats other people well
4. foreigner D. someone who is taking part in an activity or event
5. gentleman E. someone at a party, meal etc who has invited the other people and who provides the food, drink etc
6. woman F. someone who comes from a different country
7. interlocutor G. someone that you do not know
8. companion H. someone who is invited to an event or special occasion
9. participant I. A person you are speaking to
II. What is the activity?
1. meeting A. a noisy expression of happiness and positive feelings
2. procedure B. a talk in which people exchange news, feelings, and thoughts
3. greeting C. a way of doing something, especially the correct or usual way
4. backslapping D. the things that a person or animal does
5. hugging an action when one E. an event at which people meet to discuss and decide things
6. conversation F. the act of disturbing or irritating smb. especially by repeated acts
7. annoyance the G. to presses smth. tightly, especially in the arms
8. behaviour H. an expression of good wishes
III. What do these adjectives mean?
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subsequent A. true or suitable in every situation
2. sincere B. smth. that is done in a careful and controlled way
3. invasive C. using words in a clever and amusing way
4. old-fashioned D. free of dissimulation
5. unacceptable E. saying how something should or must be done, or what should be done
6. moderate F. happening or coming after something else
7. measured G. very unusual or strange
8. witty H. tending to infringe
9. inappropriate I. very long and boring
10. decent J. reasonable, practical, rather than fashionable
11. interminable K. not acceptable: not pleasing or welcome
12. universal L. staying within reasonable or sensible limits, not very large or very small, very hot or very cold, very fast or very slow
13. sensible M. of a good enough standard or quality
14. prescriptive N. not suitable or right for a particular purpose or in a particular situation
15. bizarre O. not considered to be modern or fashionable any more
4. The dos and don'ts of visiting England. Say whether these statements are true or false and explain why.
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Always introduce yourself, never wait for someone else to introduce you.
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A gentleman should never wait for a woman to proffer her hand first.
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The continental habit of exchanging kisses is very popular and recommended for visitors.
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Try to avoid gestures such as backslapping and hugging.
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When you hear “How do you do?” you should immediately answer “Very well!”
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Use “How do you do?” when you are introduced to someone for the first time.
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Stay very close to your interlocutors, otherwise they will be discouraged.
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Stop talking if you notice that your partner has his hands in his pockets.
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Maintain eye contact to emphasise important points of your speech.
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Talk very loudly.
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Avoid any temptation to ‘eye-ball’.
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Gesticulate wildly while talking.
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You should not strive to be interminably witty yourself.
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The most important rule of dining etiquette is to behave in such a way to cause as more annoyance as possible.
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Try to eat and drink faster than the rest of the group.
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Do not speak with your mouth full.
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Always lick your knife after cutting the meat.
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If you are a guest, follow the host’s instructions.
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