|SAL Men’s 12 Step Recovery Meeting for Sexual Addiction
Hello, welcome to this SAL Men’s 12 Step Recovery Meeting for those desiring recovery from sexual addiction. My name is _______________ and I am in this meeting today working on my own recovery. It is my pleasure to conduct the meeting today.
Please silence your cell phones at this time. We remind everyone that this is a closed meeting. The meeting is for men only and intended for those desiring sexual sobriety and recovery from sexual addiction. We especially welcome visitors from other “S groups” and those who may be joining us for the first time. We invite new members to stay after for a few minutes for a brief introduction to the SAL 12 step recovery program.
SAL Men’s 12 Step Recovery Groups utilize the White Book and Step into Action books from Sexaholics Anonymous as our primary study materials as we work the 12 steps. These books and study materials are not produced by SAL. We make no claim to their authorship and gladly abide by their copyright. SAL members recognize and express appreciation for the sacrifices of those who have gone before us to produce and distribute these materials which are based on the original 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.
It is the goal of those who attend this meeting to be sober from sexually acting out and find recovery in our lives. All SAL Men’s 12 Step Recovery Groups for sexual addiction adhere to the definition of sobriety found on pages 191-193 and 202 of the White Book. The definition we adhere to is; for the married sexual addict, sexual sobriety means having no form of sex with self or with persons other than the spouse. For the unmarried sexual addict, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.
SAL 12 step recovery groups believe God is at the center of personal recovery from sexual addiction. . James 5:16 will be our guide as we “pray one for another, that ye may be healed”.
Will someone please volunteer to say a pray from the heart.
Will you please join me in the Serenity Prayer. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
[Ask someone from the group to read TWO of the following passages from the White Book:]
What Is a Sexaholic and what is Sexual Sobriety? (page 202)
The Problem (page 203)
The Solution (pages 204 & 205)
The Twelve Steps (page 208)
Let’s briefly introduce ourselves, by first name only. Please tell us your length of sexual sobriety, what steps you actively worked on this week, and how many contacts you made with other SAL members during the week. I’ll begin, and then we’ll proceed to my left.
My name is ___________, and I am working my recovery from sexual addiction . . . . .
As a fellowship we celebrate lengths of sobriety with chips. Quoting from the White Book, “Getting sober and staying sober [is the purpose] of the first step in recovery. Without sobriety we have nothing to offer anyone. Working the 12 Steps is critical in developing sexual sobriety, progressive victory over lust and recovery.” (see page 185). It works when we work it!
I have asked ____________ to present chips today.
Phone List and Sponsorship
We will now pass around the phone list. We encourage you to contact members of the group throughout the week. We gain a lot of help and support when we call other members. We especially encourage members to call those who are new to the group or do not yet have a sponsor. If you are one without a sponsor, we invite you to find a sponsor as quickly as possible. .
We have no dues or fees but we are self-supporting through our own contributions. While we pass the basket, do we have any announcements from the group?
Are there any 1st step inventories? Those who are invited to participate in the inventory may leave the meeting now.
It’s now time to study the White Book and Step into Action recovery materials. ___________ has volunteered to lead the discussion today. As we discuss the materials, please feel free to raise your hand at any time to offer brief thoughts on the subject of recovery we are studying. We have about _______ minutes today for step study.
It’s now time for the sharing portion of our meeting. We ask that you keep your sharing limited to 4 or 5 minutes. When sharing, please follow these guidelines:
We lead with our weaknesses
We talk in the “I” form, not in the “we” or “you” forms
We speak only from our own experience
We don’t give advise
We don’t cross talk or interrupt when others are sharing
We avoid explicit sexual descriptions and sexually abusive language. If someone feels another in getting too explicit, they may so signify by quietly raising their hand.
Most importantly, this is a time to share our hope, strength, and encouragement based our personal experiences of working the 12 steps. It’s a time to talk about solutions to our sexual addiction, and not a dumping ground for our problems. The emphasis is on honesty, recovery, healing and how to apply the 12-steps in our lives.
We invite a member with more than 30 days of sobriety to begin the sharing, after which all are invited to share.
It is time to close the sharing portion of the meeting.
We will take 2 minutes and silently consider our personal commitment to recovery and write down our recovery goals for the next week. Example:
What steps I will work,
Calls I will make,
And a commitment to surrender lust to God and another human being before “acting out.”
“…lust is the driving force behind our sexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust.” page 202 from the White Book
Thank you for your participation in the meeting. Please remember, our SAL Men’s 12-step Recovery Group will only be as healthy as individuals in the group choose sobriety and recovery. God will help each of us if that is the honest desire of our heart. As it states in Step 7 of the White Book, page 119; “…we can only wonder what kind of God this is who can not only stand to see and know it all, but who patiently and mercifully works in us and with us toward turning these dreadful liabilities into song. God is surely for the [sexual addict] sexaholic.”
Once again, we encourage everyone to contact other members during the week to help maintain accountability and sobriety. Personal recovery is a choice. However, assistance from others is critical as we seek to learn how to surrender our will to God.
If you feel you have more to share, please stay after the meeting for informal fellowship…meeting after the meeting. Remember, this is an anonymous program. Please keep the contact information of anyone you meet in this SAL meeting confidential. “Who we see here, what we hear here, when we leave here, let it stay here!” HERE< HERE!
Would someone please lead us in the 3rd Step Prayer found on page 95 of the White Book.
God I offer myself to Thee ---to build with me and to do with me as thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy way of Life. May I do Thy will always!
We invite someone to say a prayer from the heart or the Lord’s Prayer while we stand in the circle of fellowship.
Do we have a volunteer to pray?
The Lord’s Prayer: “Our Father which art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom, and the power and the glory, forever. Amen.
Keep coming back! It works when I work it, so work it! You’re worth it!