The transition curve



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Stepping Back from Self

Implicit in all I have written is the necessity of stepping back. I believe that the model of the transition curve can be used to illustrate this.

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3rd Position
he sudden burst of light that may come from the bottom of the transition curve can be seen as the client moving into the 3rd Position; namely looking at herself (1st Position) in relation to her life or the theme of the change (2nd Position). She is an intimate stranger to herself.

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Arguably, as already mentioned, the client holds her child up high to survey the scene. It is therefore important that the coach takes the 4th Position, looking in on the client as she works; not being too close or too far away. This parallels parenting.



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4th Position: Coach


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3rd Position: Client


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From here the coach supports the client. At the same time accepting that the leap to light and perspective may be followed by a sudden drop into darkness and obscurity.




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DARKNESS

An important part of stepping back is, I suggest, about being generous towards oneself. Rainer M Holm-Hadulla writes that when the patient takes the therapist along with her in her stories then she is able to locate the therapist within herself29. With this in mind, I realise that I can often be urging the client to be ‘less tough’ on herself whilst I am also being unfairly demanding of myself. I suspect that clients will often intuitively notice such contradictions. So generosity towards self is also modelling generosity for the sake of the client.

I am also aware that, as I wrote in ‘Fragmentation at Integration’, ‘loving curiosity can mutate almost imperceptibly into forensic inquiry’30. In my drive to understand everything I lose myself. Consequently it is time for me to let go and conclude this paper.

CONCLUSION

My conclusion has two brief elements within it. The first part is perhaps a little more theoretical since I seek to capture a core dimension of coaching within the transition curve. In this regard, I suggest that the focus and challenge is about creating some new and different solid ground from which to make sense of oneself in the world. For me this is about finding one’s own path, balancing intimacy and separation, recognising that sometimes intimacy can drift into engulfment and separation into abandonment. Attention to such drifts is the joint work of coach and client (See Also Note 3).

The second part is simply to mention the French Impressionist painter, Henri Rousseau, 1844-1910. I know little about him, yet I find him inspirational. He was a customs officer who eventually in his 40’s decided to become a full-time artist. He was often ridiculed for his naïf style, which included painting pictures of tigers in the jungle. Despite the ridicule, he followed his dream. He inspired Pablo Picasso, who came across his work when one of Rousseau’s paintings was for sale on the street as a canvas to be painted over!

Note 1

There can be some fascinating and confusing feelings which emerge for the client at the point of insight. From a ‘Martian perspective’31, Eric Berne’s words for a ‘totally objective observer,’ one might expect unalloyed pleasure. However there can, as described by Patrick Casement32, sometimes be sadness. A realisation of what had been lost, the price that had been paid.

Also, I recently spoke to a friend who specialises in introducing schools and children to creative methods of education. She told me that sometimes, at the point of seeing and experiencing some new and exciting ways of learning the child can suddenly get very angry. ‘It is as if’, my friend said, ‘he suddenly feels cheated about having been denied such opportunities in the past’. The child may have been labelled ‘difficult’ and blamed for ‘not trying hard enough’. Whereas the issue was the method, not the pupil. Arguably, the child’s anger is in fact a demonstration of profound trust. His intuitive realisation and acknowledgement to himself and the teacher that he knows he will be emotionally ‘held’.

So the coach may suddenly be ‘thrown’ by the client expressing some disconcerting feelings. The risk is that the coach interprets them as resistance, perhaps particularly if she is the target. That is, in psychoanalytic terms, she is the object of transference.



Note 2

One of the reasons for this elusiveness is that the shadow can be both a consequence and a cause. The consequence dimension is where the shadow has been evoked by external circumstances. This, I have already largely described: the manager is suddenly faced with the challenge of leading her team through a major change and scarcely acknowledges her anxiety to herself, let alone others. Subsequently her shadow increasingly demands attention.

The cause dimension is where the shadow has been provoked by internal circumstances. Her life was out of balance in some way and her neglected shadow is eagerly, indeed desperately looking to create some turbulence which may eventually lead to equilibrium; equilibrium achieved by embracing a talent, a weakness, some unfinished business from the past, or aspects of all of these.

The cause dimension raises some intriguing possibilities. First, somebody may unwittingly beget the circumstances she seeks to avoid. For example, the manager may trigger the reorganisation for which she is now responsible. She may have profoundly irritated or impressed her boss who then decided, ‘Now is the time for something radical!’ It may even be a case of ‘worst nightmare realised’. The manager hates the thought of being in a high visibility, global leadership role yet relentlessly, almost in spite of herself, keeps demonstrating her exceptional suitability for such a post. Perhaps a case of, ‘Beware of what you particularly don’t wish for, because it may come true’.

Secondly, the cause dimension may mean that the turbulence is inevitable; one way or another the shadow insists on being given some attention. If the shadow does not provoke tumult in the context of change leadership then it will inexorably seek opportunities elsewhere; at a client meeting, in her personal relationship with her partner, or even in what should have been anodyne banter with her newsagent. In this last instance, it may even seem to the Martian observer that her behaviour, outrage because her favourite daily paper is slightly shorter than usual, is outlandish, even bizarre. This then echoes the work of RD Laing and others who write of the valuable insights which the so-called ‘crazy’ can achieve; these insights being inaccessible to the ‘sane’21. It also raises the possibility that the more the shadow feels ignored then the greater the chances of it appearing under the most unexpected of circumstances. This also reminds me of ‘stamps’ as described in transactional analysis5; here, ‘bad’ feelings are collected and then suddenly ‘cashed in’; for example, a harmless comment is met with a furious riposte which is clearly way out of proportion to the prevailing circumstances. The person needed to be shocking in order to stand a chance of seeing herself clearly.

So the interweaving of cause and consequence may add to the confusion around the transition. The person having a sense, sometimes beyond understanding, of, ‘This is something I have to do’, along with an equally strong sense of ‘Being swept along by events’.



Note 3

The balancing required at this personal level may also be reflected at a wider institutional level in terms of the professional bodies representing coaching. Indeed, this might include an even more extensive constituency since, as is evident from this paper, the worlds of counselling and therapy are crucial sources of learning and development for coaches. In the ever-changing constellations of relationships there is, inevitably, a role for the shadow in supporting the pain and pleasure of evolution and revolution. For example:

Consolidation Fortification Determination

Compromise Capitulation Humility

Comfort Complaisancy Acceptance

With these words I seek to outline a possible flow where invaluable perspectives can be achieved. Perhaps it also reflects Jung’s ideas of something totally new emerging through the engagement of difference. ‘Jung set out an archetypal, deep structural schema of triangulation in which he demonstrated that psychic change occurs through the emergence of a third position out of an original conflictual internal or external situation, the characteristics of which cannot be predicted by those of the original dyad’33.



REFERENCES

  1. ‘Life Changes. Going Through Personal Transitions’. Sabina Spencer and John Adams. Impact. 1990.

  2. ‘Transitions: Understanding and Managing Personal Change’. John Adams, John Hayes and Barry Hopson. Martin Robinson. 1976.

  3. ‘The Theory and Practice of Change Management’. John Hayes. Palgrave. 2007.

  4. ‘On Death and Dying’. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. Tavistock. 1970.

  5. It may, in the language of transactional analysis, be a ‘racket’; a learned feeling. ‘ A racket is a feeling which is inappropriate in:

Type – for example, somebody is cheated, but he feels guilty, instead of angry with the
other person.

Intensity – for example, somebody missing out on promotion because of the boss’s favouritism, feels ‘slightly irritated’.

Duration – for example, somebody still gets furious about the teacher who, thirty years before, persuaded him to study engineering rather than his beloved art’. ‘Transactional Analysis in Organisations’. Keri Phillips. KPA 2005.

  1. Sunday Times. 23 August 2009.

  2. ‘Melanie Klein: Her Work in Context’. Meira Likierman. Continuum. 2001.

  3. ‘Symbolization, Representation and Communication’. James Rose (ed). Karnac. 2007.

  4. ’Transactional Analysis Today’. Ian Stewart and Vann Joines. Lifespace 1987.

  5. ‘Oxford Dictionary of Psychology’, Andrew Coleman. 2009.

  6. ‘The Essential Jung. Selected Writings’. Fontana. 1983.

  7. ‘The Penguin English Dictionary’. 2003.

  8. Wolfram Mathematica.

  9. ‘I want to be both pathetic and admirable, I want to be at the same time a child and an adult’. ‘A Lover’s Discourse. Fragments’. Roland Barthes. Vintage. 2002.

  10. ‘In our anxiety to differentiate ourselves from others we become dependent on them.’ ‘The Lyotard Reader and Guide’. Keith Crome and James Williams. Columbia University Press. 2006.

  11. ‘Transactional Analysis After Eric Berne’. Graham Barnes (ed). Harper’s College Press. 1977.

  12. ‘Dictionary of Transactional Analysis’. Tony Tilney. Whurr. 2003.

  13. ‘Techniques in Transactional Analysis’. Muriel James. (ed). Addison Wesley 1977.

  14. ‘The Sublime Terror and Human Differences’. Christine Battersby. Routledge. 2007

  15. ‘The Second Sex’. Simone de Beauvoir. Verso. 1997.

  16. ‘It is a remarkable and interesting fact that parts of the personality which have been disowned in early childhood remain infantile; and even the experienced psychotherapist may sometimes be surprised by the appearance, in an apparently mature adult, of beliefs and attitudes appropriate to early childhood’. ‘The Integrity of the Personality’. Anthony Storr. OUP 1992.

  17. ‘The Divided Self’. RD Laing. Penguin. 1990.

  18. This was a significant strand in Georges Politzer’s critique of the Freudian approach. The dream becomes abstracted and is separated from the dreamer. It becomes the product of impersonal causes. ‘Critique of the Foundations of Psychology’. Georges Politzer. Duquesne University Press. 1994. Politzer, a Marxist and member of the French Resistance, was rounded up by the Nazis in February 1942. He was given the opportunity to become a collaborationist teacher, but he refused. He was executed in May 1942.

  19. ’Psychotic Metaphysics’. Eric Rhode. The Clunie Press. Karnac. 1994. Rites of passage are intended to pacify the terror that occurs in any crossing of frontiers between sacred zones. The relevance of the physical may perhaps also be seen through the following quotation from Rhode, ‘ Some people live their lives in a disembodied way because they fear that if they allow themselves to have experiences they will be devoured by them’.

  20. ‘Skills in Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy’. Emmy van Deurzen and Martin Adams. Sage 2011.

  21. ‘The Poetics of Space’. Gaston Bachelard.Beacon. 1994.

  22. The analyst deliberately offers interpretations which are ‘enigmatic and polyvalent’ so that the analysand (client) has to work hard, both consciously and unconsciously, in order to make his own sense of them. ‘A Clinical Introduction to Lacanian Analysis’. Bruce Fink. Harvard University Press 1997.

  23. ‘Scripts People Live’. Claude Steiner. Bantam. 1974.

  24. ‘The Art of Counselling and Psychotherapy’. Rainer M. Holm-Hadulla. Karnac. 2004.

  25. ‘Fragmentation at Integration’. Keri Phillips. Keri Phillips Associates. 2008.

  26. ‘Beyond Games and Scripts’. Eric Berne. Grove Press. 1976.

  27. ‘Learning from Our Mistakes’. Patrick Casement. Brunner-Routledge. 2004.

  28. ‘Contemporary Jungian Clinical Practice’. Elphis Christopher and Hester McFarland Solomon (eds). Karnac 2003.

Copyright -Keri Phillips 2013 ISBN 978-0-9519991-7-2

Other papers available on request:

‘Coaching Supervision and Parallel Process’. 2010 ( also available at www.coachingsupervisionacademy.com)

‘Envy in Coaching and Coaching Supervision’. 2011

Books by Keri Phillips:

‘Coaching and Betrayal’ KPA 2010

‘Fragmentation at Integration’ KPA 2008

‘Creative Coaching: Doing and Being’ KPA 2007

‘Intuition in Coaching’ KPA 2006

‘Transactional Analysis in Organisations’ KPA 2005

‘Coaching in Organisations: Between the Lines’. Claremont 2004.

‘A Consultancy Approach for Trainers and Developers’ Gower 1997 (co-authored with Patricia Shaw)

Visit www.keri-phillips.co.uk for blogs on topics such as: Coaching Women, Avian Confluence, Inconsistent Parenting and Leadership, A Transactional Analysis Perspective on Counter-transference, Aesthetics, Coaching in Charities, Mini-scripts and the Transition Curve, Loving Dislocation, Self-Sabotage; Hypocrisy and Supervision; Identity : A Challenge in the Coaching Community ?; Attachment Theory and Transactional Analysis; Reachback and Afterburn.

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