Curriculum Vita

Juried Conference Papers

Tolman, D., Andersen, S. & Belmonte, K., Slut rules and surveillance: White privilege and racial/ethnic costs in girls’ fellatio narratives. Society for Research on Adolescence, Austin, TX, March, 2014.

Tolman, D., Belmonte, K., & Andersen, S., Race matters: Adolescent girls fellatio experiences. Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, San Diego, CA, November, 2013.
Tolman, D. Adolescent girls’ fellatio narratives: “Slut” as social control. Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Tampa, FL, November, 2012.
Tolman, D. Nuances of power and pleasure: Adolescent girls narrate fellatio. American Psychological Association, Orlando, FL, August, 2012.
Tolman, D. “What do you like about that?” Power and pleasure in girls’ experiences of fellatio, Society for Research on Adolescence, Vancouver, B.B., Canada, March, 2012.
Tolman, D. Slut Talks: Social context complexities in adolescent girls’ fellatio narratives. Society for Research on Adolescence, Vancouver, B.C., Canada, March, 2012.
Tolman, D. Protesting or punting? Discussant. Adolescent Girls’ Sexualization: We’re taking sexy back! American Psychological Association, Washington, DC, August, 2011.
Tolman, D. Have girls gone wild?: Adolescent girls describe experiences of fellatio. Society for Research on Adolescence, Philadelphia, PA, March, 2010.
Tolman, D. Making influence: Mobilizing research on adolescent sexuality for public policy. Society for Research on Adolescence, Philadelphia, PA, March, 2010.
Tolman, D., Burns, A. & Futch, V, Narrating fellatio: Coercion, competence and contradictions. American Psychological Association, Toronto, Canada, August, 2009.
Tolman, D. What do boys want? Gender ideologies and sexual relationships. Society for Research on Child Development, Chicago, IL, March, 2009.
Tolman, D. No wave for me: An analysis of third-wave feminist writing about second-wave feminism. Association for Women in Psychology, San Diego, CA, March, 2008.
Tolman, D. APA Task Force Report on the Sexualization of Girls: Recommendations. American Psychological Association, San Francisco, CA, August, 2007.
Tolman, D. Gender(ed scripts) made them do it—Safely. Society for Research on Child Development, Boston, MA, March, 2007.
Tolman, D. Sexual objectivity: Adolescent girls’ narrations of sexual subjectivity. Association for Women in Psychology, San Francisco, CA, February, 2007.
Young, D. & Tolman, D. Chastity Pledgers? Poster presented at Association for Women in Psychology, San Francisco, CA, February, 2007.
Tolman, D. Framing women’s sexual agency: Whose fantasies? Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, November, Las Vegas, NV, 2006.
Tolman, D., Sorsoli, L. & Schooler, D. Kiss the girls and make them die: Adolescent viewing of sexualized violence. Society for Research on Adolescence, San Francisco, CA, March, 2006.
Franges, A. & Tolman, D. Boys just want sex, but I’m the exception. Society for Research on Adolescence, San Francisco, CA, March, 2006.
Tolman, D. & Hirschman, C. Other evidence: Qualitative research in HIV prevention policy making. American Public Health Association, Philadelphia, PA, December, 2005.

Tolman, D. Boys want sex, girls want relationships—NOT. Society for Scientific Study of

Sexuality, Western Region, San Francisco, CA, May, 2005.
Tolman, D. & Michael, A. Masculinity ideology in adolescent girls’ and boys’ beliefs about heterosexuality. American Psychological Association, Honolulu, HI, August, 2004.
Tolman, D. Adolescent Sexuality. Gender Development Research Conference, San Francisco, CA, April, 2004.
Tolman, D. & Ward, M. Media representations of gender. Gender Development Research Conference, San Francisco, CA, April, 2004.
Sorsoli, L., Tolman, D. & Everson, M. Love is in/on the air: Adolescence, sex and the media. Society for Research on Adolescence, Baltimore, MD, March, 2004.
Sorsoli, L. & Tolman, D. Cable guys and Gilmore girls: Adolescents’ sexuality and television viewing. Society for Research on Adolescence, Baltimore, MD, March, 2004.
Tolman, D. Don’t be a prude but don’t be a slut: What’s a girl to do/feel/think in the 21^st century? Kinsey Institute Conference on Women’s Sexuality, Bloomington, IN, November, 2003.
Tolman, D. (panel organizer and presenter). Female sexual desire. International Academy of Sex Research, Bloomington, IN, July, 2003.
Tolman, D. Beyond the prevalence paradigm: Contextualizing female adolescent heterosexual behavior. American Psychological Association, Toronto, Canada, August, 2003.
Tolman, D. & Michael, A. Compulsory heterosexuality and gender ideologies in adolescent sexuality. Society for Research on Child Development, Tampa, FL, April, 2003.
Sorsoli, L., Porche, M. & Tolman, D. The one about sexual content and relational context. Society for Research on Child Development, Tampa, FL, April, 2003.
Tolman, D. & Striepe, M. Mom, Dad, I’m straight: Impact of concerns about sexual-minority youth on heterosexual adolescents. American Psychological Association, Chicago, IL, August, 2002.
Tolman, D., Porche, M., Sorsoli, L. & Striepe, M. He left her for the alien: Girls, television and sex. American Psychological Association, Chicago, IL, August, 2002.
Tolman, D., Harmon, T. & Michael, A. Beyond the Prevalence Paradigm: Contextualizing Female Adolescent Heterosexual Behavior. Presented at the Conference on Human Development, Charlotte, NC, April, 2002.
Stein, N., Tolman, D., Porche, M., & Spencer, R. Gender safety: A new construct for schools. National Coalition for Sex Equity in Education Conference, Providence, RI, September, 2001.
Tolman, D. & Spencer, R. Femininity Ideology and Adolescent Girls= Experiences with Romantic Relationships: Quantitative and Qualitative Approaches. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, Los Angeles, CA, April, 2001.
Tolman, D., Spencer, R. & Porche, M. He’s the man!: Gender ideologies and early adolescents= experiences with sexual harassment in school. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, Los Angeles, CA, April, 2001.
Tolman, D., Porche, M. & Spencer, R. Boys, girls and compulsory heterosexuality: Quantitative and qualitative perspectives. Presented at the Society for Research on Child Development, Minneapolis, MN, April, 2001.
Tolman, D., Spencer, R.& Rosen-Reynoso, M. Narrating intimacy: Early adolescents negotiating the cultural script of heterosexuality. Presented at the American Psychological Association, Washington, DC, August, 2000.
Tolman, D. Heterosexual enactments: Early adolescent urban girls= experiences of romantic relationships. Presented at the Urban Girls’ Conference, Buffalo, NY, April, 2000.
Spencer, R. & Tolman, D. That’s just the way it is: Middle school girls’ and boys’ experiences of gender equity in the classroom. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, New Orleans, LA, April, 2000.
Porche, M. & Tolman, D. Adolescents perceptions of gender equity practices related to self esteem. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, New Orleans, LA, April, 2000.
Tolman, D. Juliet in the making?: Early adolescent girls negotiate the cultural script of heterosexuality. Presented at the Society for Research on Adolescence, Chicago, IL, March, 2000.
Tolman, D. Understanding diminished psychological vitality in early adolescent girls: The differential role of self censorship and self compromise. Presented at the American Psychological Association, Boston, MA, August, 1999.
Tolman, D. Getting beyond "it just happened": Adolescent girls' discourses of desire. Presented at the American Psychological Association, Boston, MA, August, 1999.
Tolman, D., Spencer, R. & Rosen, M. Narrating intimacy: Early adolescent girls' and boys experiences with "hooking up." Presented at the American Educational Research Association, Montreal, April, 1999.
Porche, M., Costello, D., & Tolman, D. It sooner than you think: A survival analysis of time to first romantic relationship for early adolescents. Presented at the Society for Research in Child Development Biennial Meeting, Albuquerque, New Mexico, April 1999
Tolman, D. Femininity can be dangerous for your (mental) health. Presented at the American Psychological Association, San Francisco, CA, August, 1998.
Tolman, D. & Brydon-Miller, M. Transforming psychology: Interpretive and participatory methods. Presented at the American Psychological Association, San Francisco, CA, August, 1998.
Tolman, D. & Porche, M. Femininity ideology and adolescent girls' sexual health. Presented at the 24th International Congress of Applied Psychology, San Francisco, CA, August, 1998.
Tolman, D. & Porche, M. Because pregnancy is not the whole story: Girls' femininity ideology as a factor in their sexual health. Presented at the Society for Research in Adolescence, San Diego, March, 1998.
Tolman, D. & Porche, M. Femininity Ideology as a factor in sexual health outcomes of early adolescent girls. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, San Diego, April, 1998.
Tolman, D. & Porche, M. Reframing femininity: The development of the Femininity Ideology Scale. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, New York, NY, April, 1996.
Tolman, D. Class differences in adolescent girls' experiences of sexual desire. Presented at the Society for Research on Adolescence, Boston, MA, March, 1996.
Tolman, D. Methods marriage: A modest proposal for a new metaphor in psychology. Accepted for presentation at the American Psychological Association, New York, NY, August, 1995. (Declined).
Tolman, D. Desire do's and don'ts: Adolescent girls' strategies of resistance for sexuality. Presented at the American Psychological Association, Los Angeles, CA, August, 1994.
Higgins, T. & Tolman, D. Disruptions by desire: Interjecting women's sexual agency into rape law. Presented at Law and Society, Phoenix, AZ, May, 1994.
Tolman, D. Sexual desire as a strategy of empowerment for adolescent girls. Presented at the Association for Women in Psychology, Oakland, CA, March, 1994.
Tolman, D. Defining sexual desire as a matter of women's health: A developmental perspective. Accepted for presentation at American Psychological Association National Conference on Women's Health, Washington, DC, 1994. (Declined).
Tolman, D. Desire dialectics. Presented as part of symposium,"Taboo topics in the education of adolescent girls, " American Educational Research Association, New Orleans, LA, April, 1994.
Tolman, D. & Packer, M. Phenomenological and feminist research in psychology: A methodological pas de deux (with ensemble) or Taking a whirl with methods. Presented at the American Educational Research Association, New Orleans, LA, April, 1994.
Tolman, D. & Higgins, T. Feminism, cultural mediation and the missing discourse of desire. Presented at the Columbia University Feminist Legal Theory Workshop, December, 1993.
Tolman, D. Speaking of desire, in the symposium. American Psychological Association, Toronto, Canada, August, 1993.
Tolman, D. Adolescent girls' experiences of sexual desire: The cacophony of bodv and culture. Eastern Region of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, University Park, PA, June, 1993.
Tolman, D. Adolescent girls' enperiences of sexual desire: A question of response in three case studies. Presented at the Association for Women in Psychology, Atlanta, GA, March, 1993.
Rogers, A. & Tolman, D. Listening to voices of desire and resistance: A feminist qualitative research method. Presented at the Association for Women in Psychology, Atlanta, GA, March, 1993.
Tolman, D. "When my body says yes": Adolescent girls' experiences of sexual desire.

Presented at the Society for Research in Child Development, New Orleans, LA, March, 1993.

Tolman, D. & Debold, E. Living as an image: A problem of body in female adolescence. Paper presented at the American Psychological Association, San Francisco, CA, August, 1991.
Tolman, D. Listening for crises of connection: Ideas and questions about psychotherapy with adolescent. Paper presented at the Association for Women in Psychology, Hartford, CT, March, 1991.
Debold, E. & Tolman, D. Made in whose image? Paper presented at the MS Foundation Fourth Annual Women Managing Wealth Conference, New York, January, 1991.
Tolman, D. Just say no to what? Preliminary findings on sexual subjectivity in sexual decision making narratives of culturally diverse female adolescents. Paper presented at the American Orthopsychiatric Association, Miami, FL, April, 1990.
Tolman, D. Oral history with Mary Steichen Calderone: A relational process. Paper presented at the American Educational Research Association, Boston, MA, April, 1990.

PROFESSIONAL LEADERSHIP, TRAINING AND ACTIVITIES
Recent media coverage (selected)

Mainstream and online newspapers: abc.com, New York Times, Huffington Post, gothamist.com, alternet.com, salon.com, cnn.com, Washington Post, Baltimore Sun, San Jose Mercury News, Sacramento Bee, San Francisco Chronicle

Magazines: Good Housekeeping, Psychology Today, Time, New York Times Sunday Magazine, Self, Details, Glamour, Esquire, Redbook, Seventeen, San Francisco Chronicle Sunday Magazine
Television and Radio: Nightline, National Public Radio, numerous local television and radio stations throughout the US
Blogs: Interview with Deborah Tolman, Parts 1 & 2, Science and the Sex Ladies, http://sciencesexandtheladies.blogspot.com/2011/08/ssl-interview-deborah-tolman-part-2.html

Mentorships

Dissertation chair (PhD in Social/Personality Psychology, Graduate Center, CUNY & PhD in Social Welfare, Graduate Center and Hunter College School of Social Work, CUNY), 2009-

Brian Davis

Christin Bowman (2013 Winner, Best Graduate Student Paper, APA Division 35)

Kimberly Belmonte

Hunter Kincaid

Jennifer Chmielewski

Amy Smoyers (2013 Winner, Best Dissertation, National Council of Social Work)

Joanna Kibel-Gagne

Lainey Collins

Shoshana Friedman

Jagadisa-devrasi Dacus

Marisa Ragonese

Thesis advisor (Masters of Arts, Human Sexuality Studies, SFSU) 2004-present

Maryline Descaries—Discourses in Abstinence-Only Educational Curricula

Quynh Anh Nguyen—Sexual Relationships of Female Migrant Workers in Ho Chi Minh City

Lan Nguyen—Premarital Sexuality among Young Women in Ho Chi Minh City

Bonnie Zylbergold—Heteroflexibility in Television and Movies

Rebekah Skoor—Non-biological Lesbian Mothers Experience of Motherhood

Christopher Fisher—Gay Men’s Experiences of Abstinence-Only Sex Education

Ashley Franges—Adolescent Boys’ Sexual-Self Formation and Negotiation of Hegemonic Masculinity

Ebony Smith—African-American Female Adolescent Sexual Decision-Making

Scott Herzberg—Sexuality Education for Adolescents on the Internet

Danielle Young—Pledge Breakers: Experiences of Young Women Who Took Chastity Pledges

Liz Shafer—Heterosexual Southern Women’s Perspectives on Using Sexual Items in Partnered Sex

D. Lacy Asbill—Fat Burlesque: Analysis of the Perspectives of the Performers (second reader)
Postdoctoral Fellows

Emily Impett, PhD (UCLA, Peplau)

Deborah Schooler, PhD (UMichigan, Ward)

Janna Kim, PhD (UMichigan, Ward)

Professional trainings and public service lectures

Tolman, D. Panelist, Masculinity and Humanity, Project for the Advancement of our Common Humanity (PACH), New York University, New York, NY, December, 2013.

Tolman, D. Panelist, Boys’ Masculinity, Collegiate School for Boys, New York, NY, December, 2013.
Tolman, D. Panelist. Miss Representation. (a viewing and conversation), Dallas Women’s Foundation, Dallas, TX, February, 2013.
Tolman, D. Keynote Speaker. New York Association of School Social Workers, May, 2011.
Tolman, D. Think Tank. Endangered Species Summit to Challenge Toxic Culture for Girls and Women’s Bodies, New York, March, 2011
Tolman, D. In Memoriam: Dr. George Tiller. Planned Parenthood Federation of America, New

York, September, 2009.

Tolman, D. Media(ting) bodies: Deconstructing body scripts on television. Academy of the Performing Arts High School, San Francisco, CA, April, 2007.
Tolman, D. Heterosexual scripts on primetime television: The (am I fat?) elephant in the room. Kaiser Family Foundation Roundtable, Academy of Television and Radio, November, 2005.
Tolman, D. Supporting girls’ sexuality development in school and at home. Common Ground Collaborative of Peninsula Schools, Palo Alto, CA, October, 2005.
Hirschman, C., Cheng, V. & Tolman, D. Community Partners and Researchers Working in Collaboration: A Working Session. Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, October, 2005.
Tolman, D. Just Say Plus: Sexuality Education and Election 2004. Lecture Series on Election 2004, San Francisco State University, October, 2004.
Tolman, D. Adolescent Girls’ Sexuality. Big Sister of Greater Boston, Boston, MA, May, 2003.
Tolman, D. Girls’ Sexuality and Sex Education. Girls’ Coalition of Greater Boston, Boston, MA, January, 2003.
Tolman, D. Dilemmas of Desire. Annual Meeting of Massachusetts Council of Girl Scouts. Danvers, MA, March, 2003
Tolman, D., Spencer, R. & Meyer, H. Workshop Presentation. The missing discourse of gender in school safety. Seventh Annual Conference on Gender Equity for Girls and Boys: Training for K-12 Teachers and Administrators, Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, January, 2001.
Tolman, D., Chu, J. & Pleck, J. Workshop Presentation. Recent research on boys and men.

Fifth Annual Conference on Gender Equity for Girls and Boys: Training for K-12 Teachers and Administrators, Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, January, 1999.

Tolman, D. Research Roundtable. Early adolescent sexuality: Research in a school context.

Fourth Annual Conference on Gender Equity for Girls and Boys: Training for K-12 Teachers and Administrators, Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, January, 1998.

Tolman, D. & Ward, J. Workshop Presentation. Living in the bodies of adolescent girls: A reconsideration of cultural identity and sexuality. Third Annual Conference on Gender Equity for Girls and Boys: Training for K-12 Teachers and Administrators, Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, January, 1997.
Tolman, D. Keynote address. Dealing with desire: Educating adolescent girls. "Starting Early. Massachusetts Department of Education/Centers for Disease Control AIDS Education Training Program for School Personnel, August and September, 1996.
Tolman, D. Can I love, honor and respect my body til death do us part? Harvard Divinity School, Cambridge, MA, April, 1996.
Tolman, D. Moderator, Sexuality and power in the classroom. Women, sexuality and violence: Re-visioning public policy. University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia, PA., April, 1995.
Tolman, D. Host. Sex and gender. Discovering Psychology/American Psychological Association Traveling Exhibit. Museum of Science, Boston, MA, April, 1995.
Tolman, D. Grand Rounds and Research Rounds in Adolescent Medicine, Judge Baker Children's Center, Boston, MA, February, 1995.
Tolman, D. Dimensions of desire: Dynamics of adolescent girls' experiences of sexual desire, Female Adolescent Development: A Summer Conference, Newton Country Day School of the Sacred Heart, Newton, MA, July, 1994.
Tolman, D. & Stein, N . Pleasure and danger: Sexual empowerment/sexual harassment, Mothers and Daughters Colloquium, Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, May, 1994.
Tolman, D. Discussant, Sexual violence and sexual harassment, Coping with Violence in the Schools, Harvard Graduate School of Education, Cambridge, MA, July, 1993.
Participant, NOW Legal Defense Fund Roundtable on Gender and Education, New York, NY, June, 1991.

Community Service

Founding Advisory Board Member, Project for the Advancement of our Common Humanity (PACH: Gilligan, Way & Noguera, Directors), New York University, 2013-

Founding Advisory Board Member, Center for Men and Masculinities (Kimmel, Director), Stonybrook University (SUNY), June, 2013-

Board Member, Women’s Refugee Commission, 2012-

Advisory Board, Millenium City Initiative, Earth Institute, Columbia University, 2012-

National Advisory Board Member, National Council on Gender, 2011-2012.

Advisory Board Member, TrueChild, 2009-2010.

National Advisory Board Member, Hardy Girls/Healthy Women, 2008-present.

Board Member, Contemporary Council on Families, 2008-present.

National Advisory Board Member, New Moon Magazine (by and for girls), 2007-present.

Board Member, National Centers for Sexuality, San Francisco State University, San Francisco, CA, 2007-2010

Invited Member, Boys’ Study Committee of the Board of Directors, Cathedral School for Boys, San Francisco, CA, 2005-2008.

Board of Overseers, Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts, 2001-2003.

Board Member, Teen Voices, Boston, MA, 1999-2002.

Chair, Fundraising Committee, Teen Voices, Boston, MA, 1999-2000.

Member, Education Committee, Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts, 1994-1997. Behavioral Scientist, American Psychological Association AIDS Resource Network, 1995-present.

Editorial and Review Appointments

Editorial Appointments

Associate Editor, Psychology of Men and Masculinities, 2008-2010.

Editorial Board (founding), Qualitative Psychology, 2012-present.

Editorial Board (founding), International Journal of Sexual Health, 2006-present.

Editorial Board (founding), Journal of Mixed Methodologies, 2005-2012.

Editorial Advisory Board, Journal of Social Issues, 2004-2007.

Editorial Board (founding), Sexuality Research and Social Policy, 2003-present.

Associate Editor, Psychology of Women Quarterly, 2001-2004.

Editorial Board, Qualitative Research in Psychology, 2003-present

Editorial Board, Journal of Adolescent Research, 2004-present

Consulting Editor, Psychology of Women Quarterly, 1998-2005

Journal and University Press Reviewer Journal of Research on Adolescence, Sex Education, Developmental Psychology, Gender & Society, Sex Roles, Feminism & Psychology, International Journal of Critical Psychology, Women & Health, Sexual Health, Meridians: Feminism, Race, Transnationalism, Men and Masculinities, Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, Journal of Adolescent Health, Contemporary Sociology, New York University Press, Taylor & Francis, Harvard University Press, Palgrave Macmillan

Juried Conference and External Grant Funding Reviewer: American Psychological Association (SWP), Society for Research in Child Development (Gender and Ethnicity Panel), Society for Research in Adolescence (Sexuality and Romantic Relationships Panel; Chair (2011-), Alternate Chair (2007-2007)). Special Section, National Institute of Child Health and Development: December, 2003; November, 2005. City University of New York Foundation; Health, Behavior and Context Subcommittee (ZHD1 DSR-M (HB)) National Institute of Child Health and Development, 2006-present; National Science Foundation, 2010-

Membership in Professional Associations

American Psychological Association (Fellow)

Division 35, American Psychological Association (Society of the Psychology of Women, Fellow)

Division 9, American Psychological Association (Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues, Fellow)

Society for Research on Adolescence

Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (Fellow)

International Academy of Sex Research (Fellow)

American Public Health Association

Society for Social Work Research

Professional Board and Task Force Memberships

Society for Research on Adolescence, Chair, Review Panel on Gender and Sexuality, 2011-

APA Task Force on the Sexualization and Objectification of Girls, appointed member, 2005-2007.

Institutional Review Board member, ETR Associates, Scott Valley, CA, 2003-2008.

Co-chair, Society for the Psychology of Women Task Force on Funding Opportunities for Research on Women, 2000-2003.

Advisory Board Member, University Consortium on Sexuality Research and Training (UCSRT), 2006-2010.

Advisory Board Member, Girls’ Initiative, The Women’s Foundation, San Francisco, CA, 2007-2009.