Get Smart!: How to Think and Act Like the Most Successful and Highest-Paid People in Every Field

It is the same with your life. If you have one person in your life that you refuse to forgive, someone with whom you are still angry, it is like having a locked brake on one of your front wheels. Your life will spin around and around in circles. You will burnout emotionally and physically. You will never be truly happy, and you will never make any progress. You will think about this negative person or event over and over again, year after year,
keeping your mental foot on your emotional brakes.
This single insight is the key to understanding psychology and psychosomatic illness. It is the refusal to let goof a single event, and often several events, that locks a person in place and keeps him or her trapped in the past. With this refusal to forgive, no progress is possible.
What is the one person or event that you cannot or will not let goof Whatever it is, you must have the character and the courage to let it go. No matter how painful it was, you must say the magic words I forgive him or her for everything. I let him or her go. It is over.”
Responsibility, Control, and Positive Emotions
There is a direct relationship between the amount of responsibility that you accept and the amount of control that you feel in your life. Because almost all stress and negative emotions come from feeling out of control in someway, as soon as you accept responsibility, you assert control over yourself and everything that happens to you.
There is a direct relationship between the acceptance of responsibility, a feeling of control, and positive mental emotions. The more you accept responsibility and feel in control of your life, the more positive you feel about yourself and your world. Finally, there is a direct relationship between positive emotions and happiness. And the choice is completely up to you.
Take Control
When you blame anyone else for anything, you give up control of your emotions. You turn control of your emotions over to the person you are blaming, whether he knows it or not. By blaming someone else for something, you enable that person to manipulate and control your emotions

at long distance. You give him power and control over your own happiness by your refusal to forgive him and to let him go. And inmost cases, he doesn’t even know how much control he has over your happiness and well-being.
By complaining about and criticizing others, you set yourself up as a
“victim.” By blaming others, you make yourself feel small and weak, angry and inferior. Instead of seeing yourself as a totally responsible, self-reliant individual, you allow yourself to be controlled by others and not in charge of your own life and emotions. When you blame other people, you become negative, angry, suspicious, hostile, and weak. Is this what you had in mind?

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