Sal men’s 12 Step Recovery Meeting for Sexual Addiction Introduction

Hello, welcome to this SAL Men’s 12 Step Recovery Meeting for those desiring recovery from sexual addiction. My name is _______________ and I am in this meeting today working on my own recovery. It is my pleasure to conduct the meeting today.

Will someone please volunteer to say a pray from the heart.

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  What Is a Sexaholic and what is Sexual Sobriety? (page 202)
  
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  The Problem (page 203)
  
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  The Solution (pages 204 & 205)
  
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  The Twelve Steps (page 208)
  

Let’s briefly introduce ourselves, by first name only. Please tell us your length of sexual sobriety, what steps you actively worked on this week, and how many contacts you made with other SAL members during the week. I’ll begin, and then we’ll proceed to my left.

As a fellowship we celebrate lengths of sobriety with chips. Quoting from the White Book, “Getting sober and staying sober [is the purpose] of the first step in recovery. Without sobriety we have nothing to offer anyone. Working the 12 Steps is critical in developing sexual sobriety, progressive victory over lust and recovery.” (see page 185). It works when we work it!

We will now pass around the phone list. We encourage you to contact members of the group throughout the week. We gain a lot of help and support when we call other members. We especially encourage members to call those who are new to the group or do not yet have a sponsor. If you are one without a sponsor, we invite you to find a sponsor as quickly as possible. .

It’s now time to study the White Book and Step into Action recovery materials. ___________ has volunteered to lead the discussion today. As we discuss the materials, please feel free to raise your hand at any time to offer brief thoughts on the subject of recovery we are studying. We have about _______ minutes today for step study.

It’s now time for the sharing portion of our meeting. We ask that you keep your sharing limited to 4 or 5 minutes. When sharing, please follow these guidelines:

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  We lead with our weaknesses
  
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  We talk in the “I” form, not in the “we” or “you” forms
  
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  We speak only from our own experience
  
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  We don’t give advise
  
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  We don’t cross talk or interrupt when others are sharing
  
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  We avoid explicit sexual descriptions and sexually abusive language. If someone feels another in getting too explicit, they may so signify by quietly raising their hand.
  
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  Most importantly, this is a time to share our hope, strength, and encouragement based our personal experiences of working the 12 steps. It’s a time to talk about solutions to our sexual addiction, and not a dumping ground for our problems. The emphasis is on honesty, recovery, healing and how to apply the 12-steps in our lives.
  

We invite a member with more than 30 days of sobriety to begin the sharing, after which all are invited to share.

We will take 2 minutes and silently consider our personal commitment to recovery and write down our recovery goals for the next week. Example:

What steps I will work,

Calls I will make,

Daily prayer,

And a commitment to surrender lust to God and another human being before “acting out.”