INTRODUCTION - What is this research about”? ……………………….…. 3
I. Goals of USA Hockey ……………………………………………………….. 6
Part A. Goals and Philosophies From The Experienced …………….. 10
Coaches’ Perspectives
Part B. Goals from This Coach’s Perspective …………………….….. 13
II. Goals and Expectations of Players/Parents – Do They All Match? …… 15
III. Selection Process: How Players Are Placed on Teams? ……………… 18
Where Do Parents Come Into Play? ……………………………….… 19
V. Suggested Parent Activities ……………………………………………… 22
VI. Dealing with Difficult Parents …………………………………………… 25
VII. Experiences to Date …………………………………………………….. 28
VIII. Communications With Parents: A Coach’s Checklist as a Guide ….. 31
To Engage Parent Involvement
IX. CONCLUSIONS ………………………………………………………... 33
References …………………………………………………………………. 35
INTRODUCTION
What is this research about?
How often do you hear a parent ask their child who plays USA ice hockey “Did you WIN”? Or, “How many goals did you score today?” Or, the parent may comment – “Today, the coaching was terrible; and the officiating was HORRIBLE. No wonder your team can never win a game”! Even more alarming, the child’s response may include - “Who cares, I don’t want to play any more. Hockey su__ ___s”.
The manner in which the comments above may be heard; or become know to a coach; and then correctly addressed, is important to the players, parents, coaches, and officials alike. A number of coaches, if not all at some point, may say that one of the hardest aspects, if not the hardest aspects of coaching USA Hockey, is dealing with difficult PARENTS. That is, coaches find it overwhelming, and near impossible, to satisfy the expectations of some parents. Too often, these coaches express their concern and frustration at having to deal with difficult parents. If they (the parents) would just let us, the coach - “coach” – then their children could learn the game of hockey, come to know the skills and techniques needed to play the game successfully, and most of all, to have FUN! A renowned USA Hockey Coach often said to his players and parents: To play the game is great, to love the game is even greater.
The purpose of this research is to be an on-going effort to explore ways and approaches for beginning coaches, especially those coaches at the Atom, Mites, or Squirt levels, to positively engage and successfully involve parents in USA Youth Hockey Programs.
From start to finish, this writer envisions that there is not just one, right way for coaches to be successful in their role as a coach and in effectively dealing with parents.
Although many books, reference materials, videos, and a vast array of other documents exist for helping coaches to “coach hockey” successfully, my experience to date has been that there is a limited compilation of information on parents.
Note:
At both the Level 4 and Level 5 Coaches program, speakers were asked about “How to deal with parents”. At each level training session, the speakers responded by saying (in brief) “There is no easy answer”. They did, however, share their personal suggestions; but did not refer or cite any textbook references. Thus, my interest was sparked to do a research project on involving and engaging parents in USA Youth Hockey programs.
With this in mind, this research project explores and focuses on suggested approaches and strategies for coaches, new or at younger player levels, to become more successful in the area of parent interaction and involvement in USA Youth Hockey programs. My experience over the years has been that players and parents in these age groups are most impressionable and the least experienced, respectively. I find that at the older age groups levels, like bantams and midgets, players’ and parents’ attitudes have already been shaped to the point where it is totally different in dealing with them than with the very young players and their parents.
The research goes beyond just dealing with difficult parents to also incorporate suggested activities and reference materials to more fully cover the entire spectrum of parents’ involvement USA Hockey. I proffer that positive parent support and realistic expectations can truly lend to making hockey more fun and personally rewarding for their children.
I submit the information contained in this research as a guide and aid to help coaches meet this challenge. I hope you find the material provided in this research project to be informative and useful.
Coach Steve Flavin
USA Hockey
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