Christ In The Home: God’s Plan For His Family
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Learn to ServeThird, the changing roles of men and women in our society can be dealt with in the home if we do not get locked into competition with one another. A major reason why there is a dispute over roles today is that roles are associated with power. We are extremely sensitive in our society about who has power. We want the big office, the impressive title, the big salary - all of the prerogatives of power. Families are no different. In all of the talk about liberation, we may be concerned that we do not lose control. Some families look very much like the twelve disciples of Jesus when two of those disciples - James and John - requested the best seats in his kingdom. Their mother even came to Jesus and made the request for them: "Command that these two sons of mine may sit, one at your right and one at your left, in your kingdom" (Matthew 20:21). The other ten disciples were indignant that someone wanted the power in the group. The quest for power disturbs harmony in any group - especially in the family. The ingredients of family unity are a commitment to the family over the individual, taking time to be with one another, and the willingness to serve rather than demanding to be served. If you face your family life with this kind of mindset, you will not need a contract to spell out all of the roles and obligations. Those contracts are necessary only in relationships where men and women have not learned to "be submissive to one another out of reverence to Christ." I mentioned earlier that most of us live in families. But not all families are worthy of the name. When the first family was formed in the book of Genesis, we are told that "a man will leave (" his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24; NIV). The words could be just as correctly translated, "the two shall become one person." Two people do not become "one person" over- night. First there is the task of making "one person" out of two different individuals. Then the greatest symbols of this unity between husband and wife are the children formed out of their own flesh. A family is to be more than individuals sharing a common roof. They are like an organization that is meant to grow. If we are sufficiently committed to the family, none of the forces working against the family will be able to prevent it from growing in unity. SUCCESS WITH CHILDRENAlexander the Great lived an incredible life.. If you want to do some exciting reading this summer read a biography of this world conqueror. He was the son of the brilliant Philip of Macedon. His mother was named Olympus. She was a princess. One biographer says that Alexander inherited the best qualities of both his parents. They " were no dummies. His mother taught him that Achilles was his ancestor and that his father descended from Hercules. Talk about motivating a kid! After rescuing his father at age 15 in battle, Philip said to Alexander, "Oh, Alexander! Seek out a kingdom worthy of yourself Macedonia is too small for you!" Talk about motivating children! "Hey, son, go for the world!" Parents are so important to children. Take off those leashes, give them direction and challenge them, then turn them loose! I believe you will find the following suggestions helpful in creating a sense of self-worth and confidence in your own children: 1. Assure them of God's love. When a youngster is taught about God's abiding, sacrificial love for him, he'll sense how important he is to God as an individual. When he realizes that Christ died for him, he'll feel he must be worth something after all 2. Make realistic demands. Some parents expect more of their child than any kid "" could ever live up to. This causes the children to have almost constant feelings of failure and frustration. Be reasonable, but not too easy, in your expectations 3. Spend time with your children. This lets them know they are important to you. Your personal attention will build up their view of themselves. 4. Make assignments. Give your children regular responsibilities that are not beyond them, and expect them to be completed. Add extra duties on occasion. Nothing improves a person's self-concept like doing a job successfully - - especially if it’s fairly difficult. 5.Show interest in what your children are doing. Ask them about the events of the day. and then listen carefully to what they say. Attend special events in which they participate. 6. Say no when necessary. Your youngster may be upset if you deny him something he wants to do, but he'll know you really are concerned about his welfare. And he'll be grateful in the long run. ". 7. Pray for your children in their presence. This will show them that you think they're important enough to talk to God about . Christian parents, we need to give our youngsters a high concept of themselves. The more they respect themselves, the more they will want to live godly, productive lives and the happier they’ll be. "The Cat's in the Cradle." My child arrived just the other day He came to the world in the usual way But there were planes to catch And bills to pay He learned to walk while I was away And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it And as he grew he'd say, I'm gonna be like you, Dad; You know, I'm gonna be like you." And the cat's in the cradle And the silver spoon. Little boy blue and the man in the moon “when you comin' home, Dad?" ‘”I don't know when-but we'll get together then, Son; You know, we'll have a good time then." My son turned ten just the other day. He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad. Come on, let's play. Can you teach me to throw?" I said, Not today, I got a lot to do." He said, "That's okay." And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed And said, "I'm gonna be like him-yeah-you know I'm gonna be like him. "
Little boy blue and the man in the moon "'When you comin' home, Dad?" I don't know when-but we'll get together then, Son; You know, we'll have a good time then.~
So much like a man I just had to say, "Son, I’m proud of you. Can you sit for a while?" He shook his head and he said with a smile, "What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys See you later-an I have them, please?" And the cat's in the cradle And the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon When you comin' home, Son?" I don't know when-but we'll get together then, Dad; You know, we'll have a good time then. I’ve long since retired and my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind." He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I can find the time, You see, my new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu"'. But it's sure nice talkin' to you, Dad; -"' It's sure nice talkin' to you." And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me, He'd grown up just like me-my son was just like me. "Christ In The Home: God’s Plan For His Family” Series #11 “The Needed Commitment to Oneness” We are related to all mankind, but it is physically impossible to be intimately related to more than a few during a lifetime. Yet, it is the intimate relationships which really give life its meaning, depth and richness. (Note: alone in a crowd-- depersonalization). Time prohibits our forming many really intimate relationships. Exclusiveness probably does, too. We need to be "one of a kind," "different from all others." But God has so designed us that it is possible, during a lifetime, to establish and develop one relationship unlike all others. (I do not believe it is possible for two men or two women to develop a relationship which compares in quality to the relationship between husband and wife. Need does not answer to need at the same level.) It is to this developing relationship that sex is designed to make its unique contribution. It cannot if it is not exclusive. The need it meets is too deep to be shared by more than one. To allow another to fill this need outside of marriage (either before the wedding or after the wedding) robs the marriage partner of a fulfilling experience meant by God for him/her alone. It thus robs the experience of the full contribution it was designed to make to that one, deep relationship it was designed to serve. Other parts of the relationship are extremely important. (Sexual intercourse, in isolation, is self-destructive because it seeks to isolate one personality need from all others.) But sexual intercourse is the only unique part of the marriage relationship. When other personality needs are met, sexual intercourse becomes the means of deepening, vitalizing and enriching every aspect of the relationship. It was designed by God for this purpose. It allows one relationship in life to be unique, unlike any other. And it is in this permanent, life-long relationship that the deepest human hungers (that can be met by other humans) are satisfied. II. BIBLICAL BACKGROUND -- The Place of Sex in God's Design Genesis 1:27, 28 "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it...' " Genesis 2:18 "Then the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh." Hebrews 13:4 "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous." 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5 "that each one of you know how to take a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in passion and lust like heathen who do not know God;" 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 "But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control." Directory: 2016 2016 -> Senate, No. 627 State of new jersey 217th legislature 2016 -> 2017 afoCo Landmark Scholarship Program 2016 -> Instructions for the Preparation of Camera-Ready Contributions to the Conference Proceedings 2016 -> Strategic Plan South Sudan Country Office Context 2016 -> Original: English 2016 -> Step student Scholarships for Year 10-13 2016 -> Resolution 2016 -> American bar association adopted by the house of delegates Download 1.16 Mb. Share with your friends:
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